In a good relationship I need to be solution focused
I live in a society that loves to play the blame game, and it is easy to fall into that mindset. When problems arise I can blame my relationship as an easy out. How often do I see couples engage in combat rather than working together to solve a problem.
It can feel temporarily good to discharge a frustration by blaming my relationship. There can be an immediate pleasure in such an action, and it often will temporarily delay dealing with the real life issue.
Unfortunately, temporary is just that, and if I pursue a blaming course of action I am certain to to face the same problem again and again. I want the relationships in my life to be productive and strong. I want them to withstand the difficulties that all connections are bound to face.
If I work with my relationship to solve problems, my relationship itself becomes stronger and the connection with my relationship grows deeper. I know that working together with someone opens both of our minds to new solutions and better outcomes. I understand that the act of coming up with a mutually acceptable solution to a problem serves as additional relationship cement. The immediate effort may seem hard, but the long term impact can be great, and can serve as a template for relationship solutions when other problems arise.
Today my goal is to be a solution focused person in my significant relationships.