When I watch one video on YouTube, I’m instantly presented with similar videos on my “For You” page. Facebook shows 6-7 posts from random sources it thinks I would be interested in before presenting any content from my actual Facebook friends. When I turn on the radio, it is easy to find stations that have one-sided political beliefs. If I were dating, I could load up apps to cherry-pick potential dating partners. Social media is full of unqualified, self-promoting influencers who gladly tell me what to eat, what to believe, and what to wear. My content is being curated, and information is presented to me on a silver platter. That’s good, right? I would say no. In fact, I believe this is one of the most destructive trends to have ever impacted individuals and society as a whole.
I clicked on a “short” video on YouTube titled “All men should know this about women.” This led me down a rabbit hole of more and more videos from the manosphere. A segment of content that typically shows videos of disrespectful women stating things like, “If a man won’t send me an Uber, pay for my babysitter, my hair and nails, and take me out to an expensive restaurant, he is not worth a first date!” The male commentators typically highlight these ridiculous expectations, noting how women see men as a meal ticket and nothing more.
There are an equal number of channels for women who examine how men treat them as sex objects or just want a mama to take care of them. These channels present men in a similarly disgusting and predatory way.
I have always been a fan of radio. In fact, radio changed my life when, as a kid. I fixed an old shortwave radio that I found in our basement. This allowed me to listen to English-language broadcasts from countries with vastly different views from the United States. It was incredibly educational for me to hear their logical opinions, which were sometimes the opposite of what I was hearing statewide; it started me on a path to become a critical thinker.
Occasionally, I will do an AM radio band scan, starting at 520 kHz and working my way down to 1710 kHz, while listening to content. AM radio has gone from a medium encompassing a wide range of interests to a narrow zone of mediocrity. Sports, some news, religious, and foreign-language stations are available, but the predominant focus seems to be political. This has been especially true when I have traveled to more rural areas of the US, locations that may be served by only one or two radio stations. Here, the majority of stations are very politically right, and they often carry the same syndicated programming. These stations are hateful with a common theme: the right is always right, and the left is always evil, corrupt, communist, or whatever.
What about cable news channels? If you want to hear that the left is always right, watch CNN or MSNBC. If you want to hear that the right is always right, click on Fox News. It is possible to find similar biases across just about any social media platform, including YouTube and Facebook. Both of these venues have figured out that I lean left, and they are happy to serve up tons of that type of content, with zero right-leaning information. I never see an opposing viewpoint.
I’m not in the dating pool, but my kids have told me that most dating is now done on apps, where you can swipe left to reject someone or swipe right if you are interested. This creates so many problems for both sexes, as women are presented with hundreds of choices, and naturally, they are going to cherry-pick the most exciting ones. Why is that a problem? Because many are choosing the same 10% of top-tier men, and rejecting the rest. Competing with such a large pool reduces an individual’s chances of success. Additionally, this selection process is done based on a few characteristics, like looks, and ignores other qualities that are more likely to indicate a quality relationship.
I remember treating a very nice patient who was suffering from rare panic attacks. This person was genuinely a good guy. He was a newly minted lawyer working in the legal field, but he was having trouble finding a decent firm that would take him on. He was good-looking, polite, stable, loyal, and had good values. He wanted a serious girlfriend and eventually wanted to be married with kids, but no one would click on him because he was on the shorter side, and (per him) women want 666 men: 6 feet tall, 6-figure income, 6-pack abs. Social media told women that 666 was the minimum requirement.
How many posts on social media have I seen where some pseudo-expert claims that we are killing ourselves because we are using peanut oil, or that we can avoid dementia by taking the special supplement that they are selling? You must believe!
Why is this curation happening? Is it to help us? No, it is to encourage continued engagement. The more outrageous and one-sided the content is, the more likely it is to command the viewer’s attention. The old newspaper line, “If it bleeds, it leads,” was true then and truer now. The more engaged and enraged a person is, the more they can be manipulated. This is especially true when an idea is cleverly paired with another one, often by misrepresenting information and sometimes by outright lies.
Combine universal healthcare with Communism. How about pitting public health policies against individual rights? Another common ploy is to pit religion against science. Although these examples may sound ridiculous, they have all been successfully used to shape opinion and to control others.
Social media can also suppress opposing information. Suppose I have the belief that pasteurizing milk was not implemented to prevent raw milk illnesses, like listeria, but was done by some evil science cabal that wants to control me. Social media allows me to find cult leaders and individuals with similar ideology easily. The more cult-like a group is, the more likely it is to demand social isolation and obedience. Such beliefs may be funny to others when the individual is convinced that the earth is flat, but less humorous when parents place their children and their community in harm’s way by rejecting proven vaccinations.
Confirmation bias is a psychological tendency to accept information that supports one’s beliefs while rejecting information that contradicts those beliefs. We all tend to have some confirmational bias. However, when severe, that bias prevents us from making good decisions and hampers our ability to think critically. In the past, we would hear opposing opinions from those around us. We then had to sort out the information by examining all of the variables. Media sources were required to present information as objectively as possible. This was especially true of radio and television, which used public airwaves. You could read the “National Enquirer” for gossip, but you knew that your local newspaper would give you the facts. Many news organizations had local news reporters and investigative units, groups that have now often been dismantled for various reasons. As reporting has become more centralized, it allows for more corruption and misinformation.
It is imperative that we, as citizens, regain our critical thinking skills and stop accepting biased information from self-serving individuals and groups. But how can we do this? The first step is to recognize the problem. If you are reading or watching content that consistently upsets or angers you, there is a chance you are being manipulated. If you belong to a group or organization, including a religious one, that demands that you think in a certain way and where questioning is considered disloyalty, you are being manipulated. If you can not have a rational conversation with someone with an opposing view, you have already been manipulated.
What can be done?
-Avoid curated content that biases you against any other group. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t stay informed or have an opinion; I’m saying that you should avoid editorial content on YouTube, cable news, and other sources. The vast amount of information on cable news is editorial, and therefore often biased. Much is designed to be rage bait, keeping you watching. Expose yourself to “the other side.” If all you watch is Fox News, dip into CNN now and then. Better yet, avoid both and go for a more neutral news source, like over-the-air news, which has to conform to anti-bias rules. An additional option is to pick unbiased sources like the BBC, which is now easy to access online. I tend to listen to US-based news summaries and supplement them with other balanced sources.
-Avoid all hateful channels on places like YouTube. The world is a better place when we work together, as we have for millennia. When it comes to dating apps, women are in control. Here I may sound like an old codger… but I guess that is what I am. Women, look past the superficial and focus on the qualities that really determine a good mate. Here is another true story. When I was in med school, I knew a woman who was trying to find a boyfriend (I was married at the time). I had a friend in med school who I thought would be a great catch. He was very average-looking, but a great guy. He was smart, kind, considerate, and thoughtful. He was motivated to succeed and (in fact) obtained a pharmacy degree prior to getting into med school. He had great earning potential. He wanted to settle down and was looking for a serious relationship. He had the potential to become a great dad. I arranged a blind date, and he took my friend to a very nice restaurant for dinner. I was shocked when she summarily rejected him as he gave her the “ick.” Why? Because he brought her flowers on their first date, and that was “too much.” Holy cow. I’m happy to report that he is now happily married to someone who saw him as he actually was. His wife scored a good one.
-Broaden your mind. Although I’m more liberal-leaning, I’m always willing to listen to opposing views in a civil conversation. Sometimes I change my views, most times I don’t. However, I leave knowing why a person thinks as they do, and by doing so, I know that they are not my enemy. It is OK to have a different point of view.
-Use your critical thinking skills. If an individual or group demands that you think uncritically, allow yourself to question their motivations. There are so many examples of this, from claiming that everything is “fake news” to impostor influencers peddling their lotions and potions, to “experts” with statements like “This food will cure cancer!” Our current best way of determining something is by studying real data and testing outcomes. Listen to the majority expert opinion, not some quack. Majority opinions are sometimes wrong, but quack views are often wrong and self-serving.
We all benefit when we understand and accept each other and work together. Those who want to split us based on hate rhetoric have their reasons, and those reasons do not benefit us; they only help them.
Peace
Mike






