Nine Personal Hygiene Hacks That I Use that Saves Money

I like to be clean, which is certainly not a controversial statement.  My wife would say I’m a bit fastidious, and she might imply that I’m neurotically hygienic when she is peeved with me. However, I disagree. I’m not a “germophobe” guy; I like to smell nice. I may have a more sensitive nose than most, and I react negatively when encountering someone who needs a shower. Conversely, I like it when someone smells nice. That is just me.

Despite this propensity, I have developed some frugal hygiene hacks over the years. All of them came about for reasons other than being frugal. In most cases, they worked better than more costly options and became part of my daily routine.  

I have written several posts on ways to save money, so I am adding this one.  I had a little inner conflict when writing this post as it seemed too “personal” and a bit TMI.   However, if it gets someone thinking about saving money, my disclosures will be worth it.

I gave up body wash/shower gels.

Body wash became popular in the late 1980s, and I was on board when they hit the market. The stuff was modern, smelled great, and was often colorful. Body wash is mostly water combined with detergent, thickening agents, fragrance, and other additives like preservatives, colorants, and buffering compounds.  

Around 10 years ago, I was at a store and spied some bar soap that I bought primarily for nostalgia. The soap and I entered the shower, and it was love at second sight.  I liked holding the bar, the slick way it felt when I applied it, and the overall experience.  My wife and kids are still on the body wash bandwagon, but I’m now firmly back in the bar soap court. 

Bar soap requires a slight change in procedure. You will need some sort of soap dish, and it is imperative that you dump out any water in that dish at the end of your shower. Otherwise, your bar will turn into a slimy, gross mess.  

Body wash comes in a plastic bottle that is not earth-friendly.  Bar soap comes in a paper wrapper.  Both body wash and bar soap can be purchased inexpensively or ridiculously expensively.  High-end soaps are differentiated mainly by the shape of the bar or bottle and the amount and quality of the fragrance added.  Pro tip: no one will smell that fragrance on you within 10 minutes of leaving the shower. 

If you have sensitive skin, one brand may work better than another. The same can be said if you have especially oily skin or an unusual odor issue. I have dry skin and can use just about any soap as long as it isn’t heavily fragranced. When it comes to body wash and bar soap, the skin-irritating ingredient is usually the fragrance.  

You may wonder if an inexpensive brand will get you as clean as a high-end product. If I put you in a room with 25 people who took a shower the same morning, some using the most expensive body wash and others using the cheapest bar of soap, you would not be able to smell the difference.  All products get you clean.  You may prefer the luxury of an $95 bottle of Tom Ford body wash, but it won’t get you any cleaner than a $0.54 bar of Ivory soap.  

This 8.5 ounce bottle of body wash costs almost $100!
Ivory Soap costs less than $0.60 a bar.

Is bar soap less expensive than body wash? Shower gels and soaps come in various sizes and price points, making comparison difficult. However, here is a reasonable examination:

Dove soap products are mild, quality products that many people like. As of March 2025, you can buy 16 Dove soap bars at Costco for $18.49 or $1.15 a bar. A 16-oz bottle of Dove Body Wash will last about the same length as a bar of soap (based on my usage habits). 

On Walmart.com, the 20-oz bottle of Dove body wash was less expensive than the 16-oz bottle (go figure), so I’ll use that price and recalculate it for 16 ounces.  

Doing some math: $7.97/20 oz = $0.40/ounce. $0.40 x 16 oz = $6.40.  So the calculated cost is $6.40 for 16 oz of Dove body wash. That compares to $1.15 for a bar of Dove. An over 500% difference! You can buy even less expensive bars, with brands like Irish Spring and Ivory selling for around $0.60 a bar.

I no longer use pump-liquid soap at the sink.

I don’t like using bar soap at the sink. You may be grossed out thinking about all the different people who used the same bar, but it is equally hygienic to use bar soap and pump soap. I don’t like it because people don’t drain the soap dish, and the soap becomes a goopy mess. Liquid soap has been around forever in public places but became popular for home use with the introduction of the Soft Soap brand in 1980. As soon as liquid soap became available for home use, I started using it. 

The COVID pandemic brought all sorts of shortages, including liquid soap and liquid soap refills.  I remember going to Target to find the shelves bare of these basic products.   

We had some foaming soap bottles on hand, and with a quick YouTube search, I discovered that it was simple to make foaming soap, which is just regular liquid soap plus water. This was the perfect way to stretch my dwindling liquid soap supply. Additionally, I much prefer foaming soap as it makes less of a “drip mess” on the sink while cleaning my hands just as well.  

To make foaming soap, fill an empty foaming soap bottle ⅕ with liquid soap and the rest with warm water. Add the water slowly, like you would add beer to a stein, to prevent over-foaming. Put the top back on and give the bottle a few shakes, and you will have a bottle of soap for 1/5th the cost of regular hand soap.

Making foaming hand soap is super easy. You can use a foaming container from a used-up bottle or buy empty foaming bottles from Amazon and other places.

Hand soap, body wash, and shampoo use the same ingredients with only minor changes. Hand soap may contain more detergent, body wash more fragrance, and shampoo may have an adjusted pH to reduce flyaway hair. You can use any of the above when making foaming hand soap. Body wash and shampoo are designed to suds better than traditional hand soap, so use those if you like suds. 

I found a better and cheaper way to apply body lotion.

I have dry skin, and when I was newly married, my wife would complain that my legs felt like the bark on a tree trunk.  She suggested that I use lotion after a shower, and I dutifully complied. 

My initial effort was to dry off after a shower and apply a hand lotion like Vaseline Intensive Care. That was a pain because it was slow and tedious, as applying the lotion dragged on my dry skin. 

I researched the rationale of using lotions, which changed my approach.  You may think that lotions soften skin like oiling an old baseball glove softens it.  That is not the case. The primary purpose of any hand or body lotion is to trap moisture (water) close to the skin.  A person’s natural oils are supposed to do this, but if you are a daily showerer like me, you wash those oils away.

I developed my method, which works better, is quicker to apply, and has cost savings.  This is what I do:

  1. I switched from hand lotion to a body cream. A lotion is liquid because it contains alcohol and water (making the product more diluted). Body creams usually come in tubs and are significantly thicker and more concentrated. I have used many, but my favorite is Cerave Moisturizing Cream. However, the others work well enough, too. Because they are more concentrated, body creams are more economical in the long run. 
  2. I apply the body cream as soon as I’m done with my shower.  I do NOT dry off, so all that water is available to make my skin healthy and soft.  Since my skin is wet, the cream glides on, and I’m done in a minute or two. I also use significantly less cream this way, so I don’t feel like a greased pig.  Since I’m pushing the water around, I’m dry enough to get dressed a few minutes after applying the cream.  I never have to “towel dry.”
  3. I use much less body cream this way; a jar will last me months.  

I have used this method for many years, and my wife’s tree trunk complaints are long gone. 

I like Cerave Moisturizing Cream, but other brands are also good.

I stopped using traditional deodorants decades ago.

Don’t say, “Eww,” I don’t smell bad; I just have an issue.  Antiperspirants work great for me. Unfortunately, after about a week of using them, My pores are so clogged up that I want to rip my armpits off. 

I can’t tell you how many commercial and “natural” deodorants I have tried. They just don’t work very well. Now, if you were sitting across a room from me, you probably wouldn’t notice anything, but my nose does, which bothers me.

Natural mineral crystal deodorants have been used in Southeast Asia for hundreds of years and came to America around 30 years ago.  I saw an ad in a magazine 20 years ago and bought some via mail order.  Mineral crystals are not an antiperspirant, so they don’t make me want to rip out my armpits. They work so well that  I don’t have the slightest hint of any offending body odor. 

My original purchase was a large mineral crystal rock in a little bag.  However, I have purchased it in a more traditional stick form for many years.  Don’t buy the spray or roll-on, which consists of the mineral salt dissolved in water.  They are a massive waste of money.  Buy the solid mineral crystal. Your skin has to be slightly damp so you can dissolve a tiny amount of the minerals on your skin.  This product lasts forever.  I had my last stick for over a year and only had to replace it because I dropped it, which shattered the stick into a dozen pieces.  

I rarely use toilet paper!

If the title of the last section gave you the ick, I’m guessing that this one gives you the double ick.  Let me assure you that all is good down there.

When COVID hit, people went nuts. Do you remember the TP riots? Someone hoards toilet paper, and then everyone has to. We are sheep. I remember going to multiple stores to finally score a four-pack of toilet paper that was more akin to sandpaper—and I was happy to buy it.

Several people I knew had installed bidets on their toilets during that time.  These were the fancy ones with heated seats and massaging water programs.  Soon, they sang the bidet’s praises, which caught my interest. However, to install one would cost me around $1,500 (bidet price plus a plumber and electrician).  I decided to go a more straightforward, less techy route and got a non-heating unit that could be self-installed (which I did with the help of a friend).  It cost around $60 and took less than 10 minutes to hook up.  I believed I would upgrade to a fancy unit if I liked the process.  That was around 3 years ago.

There are many of these types of DIY bidet attachments on Amazon. This one is a best seller and is less than $30.

There is a slight learning curve, but using cleansing water instead of TP gets you much cleaner down there, and it is less irritating if you have a spell of frequent “visits.”  It is the best $60 I have ever spent, and I have no need to get a more elaborate model. 

I gave up shaving with a modern razor.

I made this change at least 15 years ago.

Like most, I would buy a razor starter kit and a couple of packs of razor blades at the drugstore. Eventually, I would need more blades, but when I went to buy them, there were so many different options that I could never remember which system I had.  I would then purchase another starter kit and more packs of blades. This cycle repeated in an endless loop. I felt ripped off buying blades at over  $3 apiece. Plus, I hated that the blades were mounted in plastic, which would remain in a landfill long after I was gone.

There had to be a solution, and it was right in front of me. I remembered my father shaving with a Gillette double-edge safety razor. As a kid, I would sit on a stool and watch him. I was fascinated.  

Those same razor styles exist today and remain popular in many other countries. I bought one and started using it.  There is a learning curve when transitioning from a multi-blade system to a safety razor.  With a multi-blade cartridge, you apply a little pressure as the force is distributed over all the blades.  With a traditional safety razor, you let the razor’s weight do the work. Additionally, a cartridge razor is designed to connect with your face at the right angle, but you are the one who angles a safety razor (at around 30 degrees).  Use a safety razor for a week or two; it quickly becomes natural.  I can’t remember the last time that I nicked myself.  

When you use a safety razor, you get a close shave and are less likely to deal with bumps and ingrown hairs. A gigantic community of safety razor enthusiasts is out there to answer any question. Shaving with a safety razor can be dirt cheap or expensive if you want to use exotic shaving creams, limited edition razor bodies, and such.

I love shaving this way. Ninety percent of the time, I use a German-made razor from Merkur that is built so well that it will last a lifetime. I sometimes switch out that razor for others I own, including a Gillette Speed Razor made in 1953. Why 1953?  That was the year that I was born!

I have used this razor for many years and it still looks like new. You can buy many different styles of safety razors at various price points. They all use the same razor blade style.

This form of shaving is extremely earth-friendly as the steel blades are entirely biodegradable.  Instead of paying over $3 for a cartridge blade, typical double-edged razor blades cost between 5 and 50 cents and are universal for all safety razors.  Most blades are now made overseas in the Czech Republic, Russia, Turkey, Egypt, Israel, China, India, and Pakistan.  They come in cool-looking packages.  Most newbies buy an inexpensive “sample pack” of different razor blades to determine a brand that works for them (some blades are milder, others more aggressive).  My favorite blades cost less than 10 cents each and do a great job.

If you get into “wet shaving,” you can buy all sorts of shaving soaps, creams, and brushes at various prices. However, a regular can of shaving cream works just fine, too. I could continue, as I enjoy shaving this way, but I’ll stop now. Check out videos on YouTube if you want more information.

Want to try out wet shaving? This kit comes complete with a razor and blades and costs less than $15.
Some wet shavers turn it into a hobby. This titanium razor costs around $250. Do you need to spend that much? Absolutely not.
Wet shavers often get into the weeds when it comes to shaving and return to using shaving soap and a brush. Here, you can buy three pucks for around $10. Can you use regular shaving cream in a can? Of course!
You can also go a more luxurious route. This Art of Shaving soap and teak wood bowl cost around $50. The soap works, smells great, and will last a very long time.
You can buy razor blade samplers to find the best blade for your beard. This popular sampler pack on Amazon gives you 100 blades for around ten bucks.

I stopped going to the barber.

I’m a guy with typical male pattern baldness.  I also have a ridiculous tuft of hair in the middle of my forehead. I decided I was not going the “comb over” route.  Many years ago, I told my barber to give me a close crop, which he did. I continued that way for some time until an “incident” happened.  I had a rare extended break between two workplaces and spied a “Super Cuts.”  Only one stylist was working, but I was told I was the next customer.  I signed up and waited, and waited, and waited.  It turned out that the stylist was cutting her friend’s hair, and they were deep into gossip.  Finally, I got up and left. Irritation is sometimes the mother of invention. I went to the store and bought an electric hair clipper and never looked back, as my particular haircut is easy and straightforward.

I got sick of waiting for the stylist and went out and bought a hair clipper set.

I’m not sure that I would tackle a more complicated cut. However, I know people who do. I have a talented sister who always cuts her husband’s hair, but she went to an expensive salon for her cuts. When COVID hit, she was housebound and decided to give it a try. She did a fantastic job, and her hair looks no different than when she was spending a fortune to have someone else cut it. Only you can decide if such a bold move is right for you. 

I can make my own cologne.

The freshmen in the high school I attended were housed in an annex building that lacked typical high school amenities, including gym showers. As young boys dealing with puberty and girls, most of us were overly conscious of our post-gym smell. Our solution was to splash on cheap drugstore colognes, a habit that I quickly adopted. 

I have worn cologne every day since, the only exception being when I hike in bear country, as those buggers think cologne smells delicious. I know some people don’t like others wearing cologne, but I am the opposite.  When someone walks by me and I get a subtle whiff of a fragrance, it leaves a positive impression.  I think, “This person took an extra step to smell nice today.”  I want to do the same.

The most expensive part of a bottle of cologne is the cap, followed by the sprayer and then the bottle. The liquid contents are relatively inexpensive. Spending $60 for a bottle of cologne is common, with many popular scents costing significantly more. 

A while back, I wanted to make my own, and indeed, it is a simple process involving perfume alcohol and scenting agents in the form of essential oils and commercial concentrates from scent houses.  

I currently have several bottles of store-bought colognes, so I do not need to make any homemade stuff. However, it’s fun to do and only costs pennies on the dollar. 

I was surprised that they still sold this cologne as it was one of the brands we used as high school freshmen. It was potent stuff and likely sold for under $10 at the local Walgreens. It now sells for over $30. Should I buy a bottle? Hmm, probably not.
Sauvage is a very popular department store brand. It goes for around $100.
Ready for the big league? Aventus is a classic from the British house “Creed.” Be prepared to spend over $400/100 ml for the privilege of wearing this scent.

I am brand agnostic.

As a medical resident, I made little money.  Yet, I had to pay child support, and because of my daughter, I needed to rent my own apartment.  Money was very tight.  I quickly went from preferring certain brands to buying what I could afford. That included hygiene products.  For instance, I purchased whatever ADA-approved toothpaste was on sale.  That action became a habit that I continue to this very day.  Costco always sells one brand or another of toothpaste on sale.  When we need toothpaste, I buy one that is on sale. Likewise, I don’t care if I use brand-name or house-brand mouthwash.  I don’t get hung up in advertising hype.  

When it comes to a lot of hygiene products, I’m brand agnostic. As I write this Crest toothpaste is on sale at Costco so I would buy that brand if I needed toothpaste.

Well, there you have it, nine of my hygiene savings hacks. None were started to save money, but they all do. Saving a few cents here and there may sound silly, but it all adds up.  Sam Walton, the founder of Walmart, became one of the wealthiest persons in the world, a few pennies at a time.

Peace

Mike

Secrets To Saving Money By Packing Your Lunch

I created my first YouTube video series in 2008 due to the Great Recession. One of the populations that I was treating was newly divorced men who were suffering financially during that time.  As we talked, it became clear that many were spending money on eating out because they didn’t have the basic skills to make food.  

Cooking may seem simple if you have been doing it for years, but it is more complicated than you think. You must know what to buy, when, and how much to cook, plan what to make, and have the gear to make it.

Younger divorced men often prioritized spending on a new wardrobe or a big TV rather than a good set of pots and pans. As a psychotherapist, my goal was to improve the quality of my patients’ lives, including enhancing their practical life skills. Cooking for themselves would allow them additional independence and financial security, which equals better mental health. 

I would focus on a simple first step, like packing a lunch instead of eating out, and I was surprised how difficult this was for some.  Many thought their only option was to slap together a boring sandwich; for others, even that seemed too complicated. That is why my first YouTube series in 2008 was on ways to pack a lunch.  It was my first attempt at making YouTube videos, and is best forgotten.

We are currently experiencing runaway inflation. This is annoying for those with a cash reserve but devastating for individuals and families who are struggling financially. In my last post, I wrote about ways to save money on food. This post is all about ways to save money by packing a lunch.

As a working adult, I almost always packed my lunch. It was a financial must in graduate school and during my medical training. As an established physician, I could afford to “go out,” but I still chose to pack my meals for several reasons. The main one was that I would do paperwork and return phone calls during my lunch break. Other doctors would finish seeing patients at 8 p.m. and then stay an hour later to return calls and tidy up their paperwork. I wanted to go home to my family as soon as possible. 

There have been times when I would buy my lunch.  In the past, I worked for the VA system several days a week.  They had a heavily subsidized cafeteria, and I sometimes bought lunch so I could socialize with the other doctors. How good were those lunches?  You get what you pay for, and their lunches were cheap. 

My kids have picked up on some of my habits and packed their food from home.  Most of them are now living away and have continued that habit, which saves them time and money. My wife takes a slightly different approach and has a mini-fridge and microwave at her workplace.  She often eats shelf-stable foods at work that she can easily prepare. She is particularly fond of dehydrated soups in a cup and buys them by the gross when they are on sale.

One of my wife’s favorite work-time lunches is dehydrated soup in a cup. She buys them in quantity when they are on sale.

The rationale for packing a lunch is clear: It saves money and can be healthier. A 2015 Visa credit card company survey noted that the average person could save $1,170/year by packing a lunch. A 2023 analysis on makingsenseofcents.com cited a $100 saving per month. However, you can save much more.

Let’s look at two extremes.  In 2025, spending over $20 (lunch and tip) at a typical restaurant would not be uncommon.  I recently took my daughter out to lunch at a pick-up place. A sandwich plus chips and a drink was close to $20!  I ordered at the counter, had to pick up my food, and had to bus my table, so I did not give them the “suggested” 25% tip. Naturally, that would have increased the cost further.  These prices may seem high where you live, but they are commonplace in Chicagoland.

In med school, I was desperately poor and brought a cheap lunch 95% of the time; I packed a generic sandwich and perhaps some house-brand cookies, chips, or an apple. I often drank water but sometimes brought one of those horrible sugary drink pouches (Capri Sun). Coffee was usually available for free in the hospital. Let’s look at one of my typical med school lunches using 2025 prices (prices from Walmart.com as of March 2025).  

PBJ sandwich (Google search/https://lenpenzo.com from 2024) $0.46

One serving of rebagged Walmart sandwich cookies $0.13

Gala Apple (⅓ pound) $0.40

Coffee $0.00

Total $0.99

If you are spending $15/day buying your lunch, 5 days a week, 48 weeks/year $3,600.00

If you are packing the above super cheap lunch/year. $238.00

Savings/year $3362.00

It seems that everyone carries a water bottle. They come in a vast variety of shapes, types, and sizes. Why buy a bottle of water when you can bring it for free?
You can buy snack packs of cookies, chips, and popcorn for around 50-60 cents a bag or rebag a larger package. Here, I have a cup of home-popped popcorn with one cup costing only a few pennies.

Of course, you may pack a more deluxe lunch or only eat off of the $5 McDonald’s menu every day, but either way, you will save money by packing your lunch.

I had a patient who was constantly strapped for money. She and her husband worked in lower-level retail jobs and ate all their meals at McDonald’s (or similar joints).  I finally convinced her to cook at home and pack her lunch.  This was a difficult sell because she thought she could never eat as cheaply as a McDonald’s combo meal.  However, she went from never having enough money to saving money. 

When I first met my friend, Tom, he always went out to eat. He owns a residential construction business and is often in different locations with interesting food options. It would not be uncommon for him to buy coffee and a breakfast treat at Starbucks, a nice lunch at a local pick-up joint, and make a trip to get coffee during the workday.  However, with today’s economy, he now brings a thermos of coffee and lunch from home and is eating better and healthier.   

Thermos-style coffee flasks come in a variety of styles. Here is the one that I use.

If you decide to bring your lunch, it’s wise to invest in some inexpensive accessories. Here are a few items to consider.

I usually packed my lunch in a soft-sided 6-pack cooler. It kept my food cold enough that I didn’t need an ice pack. However, there are now a variety of inexpensive soft-sided insulated bags specifically designed for lunch. You can find them everywhere, from big box stores to Amazon.  Choose one with a sound closure system, i.e., a sturdy zipper. My bags would last me years.  If they got grungy, I hit them with a bit of soap and water.

There are now a massive variety of insulated lunch bags available.

Regarding food containers, when I was in med school, I used the least expensive fold-top sandwich bags for items like a sandwich or some rebagged chips. However, zip-close bags are inexpensive and recommended over fold-over ones. I just searched Amazon, and they can be had for as little as $0.02/bag. A better option is to use reusable containers.  Granted, you must use them for a long time to “break even,” as sandwich bags are so inexpensive, but they are likely the better ecological choice.  Several of my kids prefer to use Rubbermaid-style containers designed for sandwiches.  Naturally, there are now many reusable containers for just about any food need.  My son often takes frozen chicken nuggets in a pristine Tupperware container purchased at a second-hand shop.  He heats the nuggets at school for a quick no-prep lunch. 

Zip-close sandwich bags can be had for as little as two-cents per bag.
My kids liked reusable containers for their sandwiches.

I was also poor as a medical resident, but my lunches were often better than those of my cohorts, who bought their lunch daily.  With minimal funds, I planned out my meals carefully and would cook enough food for two meals.  I purchased a Rubbermaid lunch meat container that was about an inch deep and the width of two slices of lunch meat.  When my dinner was ready, I put half of it in the Rubbermaid container for lunch the next day.  While my friends ate cafeteria sandwiches, I had real meals (traditional dinners, stir-fries, casseroles, etc.). This was an extremely economical way to eat, as I never threw out leftovers. By the way, do you know that Americans throw out about 40% of the food that they buy?  That is throwing away money.

My daughter recently moved to her own place and called to tell me she was “channeling” me.  She made a small meatloaf and sides.  She ate ⅓ of that meal and immediately packed the remaining 2/3rds into individual containers.  She loved the idea of coming home the next two nights to a delicious homemade dinner that only required a reheat. She packs her lunch and doesn’t get tired of the standard sandwich or bagel fare, so her lunch prep is also simple. 

I read an article about a woman living in a tiny NYC studio apartment. She only ate organic but still had a very frugal grocery bill.  She did not have a kitchen and did meal prep on the weekend using a hotplate, a coffee pot,  and a small rice cooker. She had no kitchen sink, so she washed her dishes in her shower.  She made two to three main courses for the week and divided them into individual meal containers.  She also made enough morning coffee for the week and refrigerated it to reheat in the morning. Yes, her plan was extreme, but it worked for her.  All she needed was some problem-solving abilities and a little creativity. 

I worked two days a week in a town almost 100 miles from home so I would spend the night in a hotel.  The city was rough, and the dining options were limited. Also, I worked the first day until 10 PM, so I wanted to get to my hotel room and chill.  I packed in lunch, dinner, and breakfast for the following day.  My lunch was typically leftovers from home, and my dinner could be various things, from leftovers to a sandwich to a meal that I prepared in my hotel room.  Breakfast was often oatmeal with nuts and dried fruit. 

I built a “kitchen in a bag” that included a 7” mini electric frying pan. The hotel room had a microwave and a coffee maker, so I could make just about anything I wanted to eat. 

My traveling kitchen included a tiny 7″ electric skillet that was surprisingly versatile.

My niece likes to meal-pack salads. She will make five salads without any dressing. She keeps a bottle of dressing at her workplace, but repacking an individual salad dressing portion is easy if you don’t have access to a fridge. As a medical resident, I had a couple of 1-ounce Rubbermaid containers that I would carry. I hated cleaning them, so I devised a solution. I would seal a portion of salad dressing in a Ziploc sandwich bag.  At lunchtime, I push the dressing to one corner of the bag and twist the top like a pastry bag.  I then snipped off the corner to pour the dressing on my salad. This method works for soft food items, including butter, peanut butter, and cream cheese.  It is very easy to do, and there is no greasy mess to clean up. 

You can now buy various small containers perfect for items like salad dressing. However, I think they are a pain to clean, so I use the “Ziploc” method.
Foods like salad dressing and peanut butter are easily transported using a Ziploc bag. I have always carried a pocket knife with me which is handy for so many things.
You simply push the bag’s contents to one corner and then twist the bag like a pastry bag. Snip off the corner to deliver the contents. Here, I’m adding some peanut butter to a cut-up apple.
There are a variety of containers that can be used for meal prep from plastic to glass.
You can also buy semi-disposable boxes for meal prep. However, even with care, they will need to be replaced much sooner than the non-disposable types.

There are many inexpensive items designed for eating on the go. I suggest keeping flatware with your lunch gear. I used a camping-style spork for years, but you can also buy a knife, spoon, and fork for very little at dollar stores. It is best not to use your home flatware, as it is easy to lose. 

I kept a titanium sport in my lunch bag.
You can buy nifty lunch flatware or go to the dollar store and buy a place setting for a couple of bucks.

If you work indoors, your company will have a microwave oven in its lunch room.  I always used Rubbermaid-style containers, but you can now get many glass ones with sealing lids. When I was working at that distant city site, the clinic had a microwave, but it was filthy and rusty inside.  I purchased a tiny 1-quart warming “Crockpot” with a stainless inner pot.  I would pile in leftovers the night before and then pop them into my mini warmer when I got to work.  By lunchtime, my meal was piping hot.  

Food containers now come in every shape and can be found in plastic, glass, and stainless steel styles.

My friend Tom rigged a small microwave and inverter in his tool trailer so he could quickly reheat his lunch.  Airline attendants and van dwellers love a little heating device called a HotLogic Mini to safely heat their food, and let’s not forget the humble wide-mouth thermos, which has kept lunches warm for millions over the decades.  

The HotLogic Mini is a food warmer popular with airline attendants and van dwellers. It comes in both an AC and 12-volt model. It often goes on sale.
The widemouth thermos has been around forever and allows those without a microwave to have hot food at the workplace.

I always carry a little pocket knife for many reasons, including lunch.  I can cut up an apple, open the tip of a Ziploc filled with salad dressing, or cut a chunk of bread.  

A little pocket knife is useful for many things.

I like to prewash my flatware and dishes after lunch when I don’t have a sink handy, I pack a couple of damp paper towels in a Ziploc. These are also useful for wiping my hands in a pinch. 

A few damp paper towels in a Ziploc back are handy for a quick pre-clean of used Tupperware or to wipe hands.

The trick when packing a lunch is to think outside of the box.

The traditional sandwich has its place, but my favorite lunch is last night’s leftovers. I also freeze individual portions of homemade soups and stews that can be pulled out of the freezer on days when the cupboard is bare and I don’t feel like running to the market. Additionally, I like to mix things up, sometimes buying shelf-stable ready meals for a few dollars that I can eat with a slice of bread. Remember, anything goes: oatmeal for lunch? Sure. Cheese and crackers? Why not? Can of soup? If you like.  Yesterday’s carry-out Chinese?  Of course.  Be creative, and you will never feel deprived or bored. 

If I had extra from a batch of soup or stew, I would seal it in a vacuum seal bag and freeze it. In a pinch, I could use this as a quick lunch.
On occasion, I would pack shelf-stable meals. These Hormel meals could be found for around a dollar and are now sold for under two dollars. I would pair them with some bread and butter for an easy pack.

If you are fearful of diving in, then do it slowly.  Brown bag Tuesdays?  Meal prep on Sunday for three workday lunches and go out the other two?  You are in charge of your mealtime destiny.  The longer you do it, the more natural it becomes. Good luck!

Peace,

Mike

An Update: Life after 7 years of retirement

I have been retired for 7 years, – I can’t believe it!  This is my annual retirement update blog post.

The first question you may have is, “How are you doing?”  I’m here to say that I’m doing well despite some challenges. My most important advice for anyone who is or is about to retire is to “roll with the punches.”

Many have plans and expectations when we retire. However, you will likely be disappointed if you rigidly hold to those expectations. I have been flexible, and at the seven-year mark, I can honestly say I’m very happy. My happiness requirements may differ from yours, so (as I always say), you do you.

I think that my most significant change has been dealing with my wife’s illness, which has been ongoing for the last two years.  My wife is a trooper and has not let it control her life.  However, it has had us modify plans.

My wife loves traveling and exploring new and exotic places.  However, medical issues have gotten in the way.  I’m more of a country mouse and thrive on being in nature.  When I retired, I turned a van into a camper with my friend Tom.  It is super cool and can operate completely off-grid as it generates electricity and even purifies stream water.  I have taken “Violet the camper van” nationwide and want to travel more. I did go on some longer trips with my son this year and continued mini-adventures with Julie, but I had to delay any extended trips with her.  

Violet the camper van is the childhood clubhouse I never had, and the twelve-year-old boy in me loves her.  I can’t tell you how much joy Violet gives me when traveling.  Now that we are two years into Julie’s illness, we are considering a month-long trip in Violet.  Will that happen?  Who knows.  However, I am sure that we will go on some shorter trips.

Taking a traditional “vacay” also remains a possibility as she heals. We are approaching life one day at a time.

My adult kids returned home during COVID but are leaving the nest again.  One left last August, one will leave this weekend, and the last will go by early summer.  Having them around the house changed what I thought I would do in retirement.  However, it turned out to be a good change.  We all reconnected, did many things together, and wholly enjoyed being a reunited family. Now, I have to deal with that whole empty nest thing again.  I like my kids, so I expect a difficult transition, but I know I’ll survive.  My kids are moving locally, and we are already looking for ways to continue to see each other. One option is scheduled rotating brunches alternating with Sunday dinners for those who can make it. 

Being retired presents its worries. When earning money, I could always work harder if I needed to. Now, I’m dependent on Social Security and my retirement investments. Also, I have been on Medicare for years. The government has been so chaotic lately that I wonder daily what my financial and health insurance future will be. This concerns me, but I realize I have no control over it. I’m trying to adapt, a “One day at a time,” philosophy. 

I am very thankful that I remain healthy. However, in January, I had shoulder surgery, which I’m still recovering from. Each day, I’m a bit better. One’s health can change at the drop of a hat, so I’m trying to live each day to its fullest.

It doesn’t take much to amuse me, and it would be an extremely unusual day where I am bored.  I love exploring my thoughts in this blog and other venues.  I love spending time with my family doing simple tasks like cooking dinner with my kids. I thrive on learning new things, which are often obscure and trivial.  I continue to be an Amazon “influencer” and like reviewing new products for them. Beyond my immediate family, I am incredibly fortunate to have friends and extended family who I love and who love me.

I continue to explore photography and want to expand my commitment to it once the weather clears and my arm improves. I enjoy traveling to other towns to take street photography.  This can be shooting anything from people to interesting architecture.  I have done this by myself in the past.  However, I would like to find a like-minded person with whom to share the experience.  I am considering putting an “ad” in one of our local Facebook groups. I would supply the transportation (Violet) and my accomplice could split the cost of gas.  I’m pretty shy, and I always feel I have to keep people entertained, so it would be a significant growth step if I dared to do the above.  However, now that Julie is feeling better, I certainly think I could (at least) do some day trips myself if necessary.  

So much of my energy last year was focused on Julie and my kids.  It felt good to be there for Julie, and currently, I’m helping my one daughter transition into her new apartment. Because of my partnership with Amazon, I have acquired a lot of stuff to give my kids as they venture out on their own. Beyond those freebies, I have encouraged them to take household items with them.  For instance, my son will likely take our basement rec room furniture when he moves out this summer.  We only use our rec room for storage and exercise, so giving him that furniture is a win for both of us. I like being helpful to others, but I also focus on taking care of myself.

I once again have been on a crusade to lose weight with my BMI being my lifelong nemesis. I lost weight in 2016 and kept it off until COVID hit.  I have now lost most of what I want to again, less 6 pounds that refuse to leave my body.  I am happier when I’m a more normal weight, but I’m also trying to accept who I am. Despite incredible effort, I have never permanently cracked the obesity problem. 

This last year, I did a lot to organize and eliminate 35 years of “living in the same house” clutter. I have a long way to go, and unfortunately, my shoulder’s recovery will prevent me from doing much on that front until late summer or fall. That’s a good excuse not to feel guilty for not doing it!

This year has continued my spiritual journey. I am a Christ follower who tries to follow Christ’s example daily. I think Jesus’s message was overwhelmingly of forgiveness, acceptance, peace, inclusion, and love.  After many years of attending a church, I left when their message changed to exclude groups that didn’t fit their particular interpretation of the Bible.  This saddened me greatly. I’m not sure where to go next or if I should just build my spiritual life as an individual, I’m even thinking of attending a more “universal” church. All of this is a process in motion at the moment. 

I still revel in having control over my schedule. For most of my life, others scheduled my time. I accepted that as being the way it was. However, there is a joy in not constantly feeling that I must be busy producing something worthwhile. Writing today’s blog post is not fiscally productive. However, it gives me pleasure, which is enough justification to do it.

My life at seven years of retirement is extremely rich and fulfilling, and I know why. Long ago, I figured out those general categories that satisfied me. Everyone has broad areas that are fulfilling, but those areas differ from person to person.

These are mine:

I love to learn.

Gaining knowledge on a topic excites me. Honestly, it doesn’t matter if I am learning the latest psychopharmacology for the treatment of psychosis, the history of the Permian-Triassic period, or why one brand of power tools is superior to another. In my professional life, my learning focused on becoming an expert on a particular topic. However, now I can learn as much as I like on a subject and then stop when desired. I can dip my toes into any area from van life cooking to quantum mechanics, and when I have had enough I can stop and move onto something else.  What a wonderful gift!

I love to be creative.

Nothing excites me more than applying an idea or concept from one discipline to a different discipline. I love to push my boundaries and explore the commonality of things that seem dissimilar on the surface. I am a natural problem solver and there are so many problems that I have yet to solve. Creativity can be applied to all aspects of life. It is creative to develop a complex business plan. Still, it is also innovative to determine a better way to clean a toilet or find a delicious way to use leftovers. All give me joy.

I love to teach.

I want others to think and think outside the box. Yes, I want to impart information on others, but I also want them to take that information and form their own ideas. During my professional life, I might help a patient see how their behavior hurt their mental state.  That would be the first step.  However, giving them the tools to empower them to move towards healthy change was equally important. Now, I may help one of my kids explore a life change. Yesterday, I sat with my daughter, pondering health/life insurance options as she starts her first adult job. I was active in the discussion but not the decision maker.  Give a person a fish vs. teach a person to fish.

I love connecting with others.

I have posted many times that I’m an introvert and deliberately limit the number of people I invest in because I try to invest fully in them. Am I a recluse? Nothing could be further from the truth. I need less person-to-person contact than some, but I do need contact. However, I also need my alone time.  

Connecting with those I value is an absolute necessity. I am beyond fortunate that those individuals value me as much as I value them. I love hearing their viewpoints, hanging out with them, learning from them, and even disagreeing with them. People enrich my life, and now that I’m retired, I have the time to stay in contact with those I love regularly.

These essential “wants” may seem elementary to many, but they immensely satisfy me. Since they are non-specific, they are not bound by my status. Recognizing my core needs has allowed me to adjust to my life despite its ups and downs. They are the keys to my happiness.

Let’s see what the next year brings!

Peace

Mike

I wore a tie only a few times these last 12 months. I used to dress “professionally” at least 5 days a week. I don’t miss that.
My new work outfit. A flannel shirt! much more comfy.

How To Realistically Save Money On Food

The problem.

Food has always been a large part of most people’s budgets. Inflation is a pain if you have financial resources, but it is devastating if you have been living paycheck to paycheck. As money becomes tight, people rely on other sources of cash, including credit cards, which adds more to their financial woes. 

You can delay purchasing a new TV or pause on updating your wardrobe, but you can’t stop eating. I grew up in a family of seven. My dad worked, but my mom did not work outside the home. We always had food on the table, and because my mom was a great cook, it was always delicious. However, she employed many budget-stretching techniques, some of which seem lost in today’s world of fast food, prepared meals, and restaurant eating.

In the early years of my marriage, I embraced many of the modern eating patterns.  When my kids were young, it was common to go out to dinner once or twice a week, and we frequently went out to breakfast after church on Sundays. Fast food was a big part of our diet and it wasn’t uncommon for us to grill steaks for dinner because we had a “taste for them.”  Much of that has changed in our household, we are economizing but not feeling deprived.  In many ways we are eating better than we did in the past.

How is that possible?  I do most of the grocery shopping and meal preparation at our home (I’m retired) and have employed many techniques I observed while growing up.  Additionally, I was divorced from my first wife and poor during the early years of my career. I developed options to survive on the smallest grocery budget possible.  Lastly, over the last decade I have taught my kids how to cook and in doing so I have refined and simplified that process. In today’s post I aim to show new budgeters some of those techniques.

Teaching my kids has been a joy. We now work as a single unit in the kitchen and have great fun making meals together. Here we are making some chicken fried rice.
My kids have also become accomplished bakers.

What this is not.

Many articles and YouTube videos have titles like: “I survived spending only $1 a day for food,” or “How I fed my family of 4 for only $25 a week.”  God bless those individuals as their methods often combined starvation with monotony.  My goal has never been to eat as cheaply as possible, it was to reduce costs.  We are well fed in our house and still have found ways to economize.

What this post is.

My goal is not to have you incorporate every idea listed.  If you are new to trying to reduce grocery costs, start by emphasizing spending less at the grocery store, and do that by using a method that works for you.  Add other savings options as you become more comfortable, ignore options that I present that make little sense to you, and incorporate things that work for you that I have neglected to list.  This post is intended to be a springboard for your creative process. It is meant to inspire you, not to overwhelm you. 

We eat regular food.

There are always ways to economize no matter what diet you ascribe to, but the more restrictions you place on your eating, the more difficult it becomes to economize.  Can you find multiple ways to reduce food costs if you are vegan, gluten intolerant, or wholly organic? Yes, of course.  However, we are traditional eaters in our home, which gives us more saving options. You may object to some of my methods, citing that we should eat how you eat.  I respect your choice, but you do you and let us do us. 

The simple steps to saving money on food.

Buy cheaper

Buy less

Make from scratch

Keep food making simple

substitute

Be varied

Use it up

How to spend less money on groceries

There are many ways to save at the grocery store, but it is unlikely that you will use all of them. The best approach is to start with options compatible with you and then add or subtract techniques that work, or don’t work, for you.

I have always been fascinated by those who are good at coupon clipping.  However, I am not one of those individuals.  Likewise, I have a niece who is a pro at using a store’s digital grocery coupons, sometimes saving 30% of her bill.  Using an app before or while I shop is a frustrating pain for me.  

Others will shop multiple stores every week to find the best deals and loss leaders.  I admire them, but I’m usually “done” after buying a week’s groceries at a single store.

Choose and become familiar with your main store.

I go to the store with the lowest overall prices to save money on groceries. In my neck of the woods that means Walmart or Aldi. I was a Walmart shopper for many years but slowly abandoned shopping there. Why? for multiple reasons: The store is gigantic, and I would end a shopping trip exhausted. There were so many choices that I would get decision fatigue comparing items and their prices.  The store has so many products that I always bought more than I intended, and I despised self-checkout when I had a cart full of groceries.  

This last reason is why I quit Walmart as my main grocery store.  I had a full cart of groceries and there were no checkers, so I was stuck sorting items on 18” counters.  I had to place things back in my cart and separate them as I checked myself out.  At the same time, I was scanning and looking up fruits and vegetables on the touch screen.  Our Walmart has an employee who stares you down like you are trying to steal something.  It is very uncomfortable.  Naturally, the machine froze, requiring me to wait for that person to release it.  My final straw was when I went through that ordeal only to have the lady at the door want to review my receipt and check every purchase that I made.  Nothing like a store that makes you feel like a criminal.  What did they find when they reviewed my cart?  They found that I paid for every item.  However, that was the final straw for me.

I switched to Aldi and have never looked back.  In our area, Aldi generally offers prices lower than Walmart and much lower than traditional grocery stores.  Aldi has its limitations, but many of them benefit me. Aldi mainly sells house brands, but their quality is good.  If you want a product, like catsup, there is only one brand to choose from. That is fine because I don’t have to ponder which item to buy.  Because they have fewer brands, the stores are small and less fatiguing. Ours has super fast checkers, taking that burden away from me, and large areas to pack groceries. Aldi does run sales, but they are very clearly marked and don’t require coupons or apps. I always spend less (compared to when I shop at any other grocery store) at Aldi.  That is even when I bite the bullet and use another store’s digital coupons.

Aldi stores are much smaller than a typical US grocery store making it much easier to shop there.

Aldi has limitations and eliminates many of the frills that other markets have. You won’t be able to get a decorated cake at Aldi, and there isn’t an on-site butcher. Additionally, Aldi has limited products. You can buy any cake mix, as long as it is chocolate, white, or yellow. Need some spices? Aldi sells them at a great price, but don’t get too exotic. I have never seen the spices as basic as bay leaves or thyme at Aldi. However, stopping at another store to get those things is easy and economical as long as I buy just what I need.

Basic spices are very inexpensive at Aldi and are of good quality. However, you will likely need to go to another grocer if you need anything beyond the basics.

Consider house brands.

When I was a resident physician I made little money.  Additionally, I was paying child support and had to live alone in my own apartment as my daughter stayed with me every other weekend. Money was extremely tight. In those days, grocery stores featured “generic” products, and I bought them because I had no choice.  However, generic was not the same as a house brand.  They were of inferior quality.  One time I opened a can of green beans that contained an entire plant, stem, leaves, and roots! 

I have found that house brands are typically very good quality, and their quality has increased. My kids like Oikos yogurt, and my wife will sometimes buy that brand if she finds it on sale. However, the Adli brand tastes pretty good and is significantly cheaper. When my adult kids said, “Dad, we prefer Oikons,” I said, “Feel free to buy it; if not, I’ll buy you the Adli brand.”  Given the option of buying their own, they happily ate the Aldi yogurt.

Of course, high-end products are likely better than house brands. I read recipes where the writer tells the reader to use a particular canned tomato or mayonnaise brand. However, we are not “high end” here. We are just regular eaters.

Consider making your coffee.

Buying coffee every day is a costly proposition. You can make your own for pennies on the dollar. Making coffee can be extremely simple or very complicated depending on your desire. Instant coffee (trust me, you can get used to it) is incredibly cheap and as easy as adding a teaspoon of the stuff to hot water. There are also a multitude of coffee makers available, from drip to French presses to Keurig style. You can buy a reasonable drip coffee maker for $20-$50.  Using coffee pods is the most expensive way to home brew, but still much cheaper than buying Starbucks. Lastly, making your coffee at home is more convenient than waiting in line at a store. 

We buy whole beans at Costco and grind our coffee for each pot. We have a Bunn coffee maker, which was expensive but has been continuously used for over 10 years. 

Do we ever buy coffeeshop coffee? Yes, but mostly when we are meeting someone at a coffee shop. 

Adjust your diet based on current costs.

Eggs were a mainstay in our house when I could buy a dozen for eighty-eight cents. My daughter would hard boil a bunch for a week’s worth of breakfasts.  I sometimes made them for lunch and occasionally cooked omelets for a family dinner.  However, eggs have gone through the roof, and we eat less of them.  I have gone so far as to purchase “egg replacers.”  Egg replacers can be used in cakes, cookies, pancakes, and other baked goods.  They don’t have the nutritional value of an egg, but they are relatively inexpensive and bind ingredients similarly to eggs.  

I mentioned earlier that we used to eat steak regularly. It is now a “special occasion” food. When we eat steak, we cut it in half, so two steaks feed four people. That amount of meat is still more than US nutritional guidelines. 

Other beef products have also become expensive, so we generally eat less of them. 

Being flexible is key when it comes to saving money.

Limit buying processed foods.

I have an older relative who no longer wishes to make meals from scratch and mostly buys premade individual frozen meals. I completely respect her actions, but her grocery costs for one person are roughly the same as what I spend for four adults. Most will tell you that processed foods are not the best for you. I’m here also to say that they are costly.  

That said, we do buy some processed foods. Every Friday, we make frozen pizzas for dinner.  By the end of the week, no one wanted to cook, and this option worked out for us. We can always find frozen pizzas on sale. Balance and common sense are the key to sustaining a food plan.

Stick with the basics.

Another reason that I love Aldi is that many of their foods are “basic.”  What are basic foods? They are foods that can be utilized in many ways. I can buy premade frozen pancakes or save money using a pancake mix.  Even better is making pancakes from scratch using flour, which can be transformed into thousands of different foods.  

Do I ever buy frozen pancakes?  No.  Do I ever buy pancake mix?  Sometimes.  Do I ever make pancakes from scratch?  Often!

If you have essential ingredients on hand, you can make many foods. If you buy a pizza, you have a pizza. If you purchase a jar of spaghetti sauce, you can make pizza, spaghetti, a manicotti bake, and lasagna. You can do all the above and more if you buy a can of crushed tomatoes. Sometimes I’ll make individual pizzas on a worknight using whatever I can find in the fridge.  The kids love them. 

Be reasonable.

My grandmother made bread for her family every week.  It was delicious!  I occasionally make bread as a treat, but I mostly buy bread.  Convenience is the driving factor.  

I sometimes make bread as a special treat, but I mostly buy it for convenience.

I occasionally buy a pre-made refrigerator meal, and my wife loves diet soda. As I have repeatedly said, balance is key to a successful plan. How many extras you can add will depend on your cash flow.  I know of families that almost exclusively drink water to save costs.  Everyone has to figure out what works best for them.

Fresh, frozen, or canned?

We do buy fresh vegetables and fruit, but we buy them carefully. Certain vegetables, such as onions, potatoes, green onions, carrots, celery, and salad fixings, are reasonably priced. Likewise, bananas and some apples can be good values. Other fruits and vegetables can be bought when purchased in season. However, how fresh is fresh?  Vegetables are transported to stores, often from different countries.  They then sit under bright lights as they get sprayed with water.  This may make them look fresh, but it also promotes mold. 

Frozen vegetables and fruits are picked and processed at the peak of their ripeness. They are often less expensive than their fresh counterparts. They also last a long time in the freezer and are flexible when cooking.  

Many people have negative feelings toward canned fruits and vegetables. However, they are picked similarly to frozen and are highly nutritious. They last a long time while being shelf-stable. I often add them when bulking up something like a stew or serve them as a side after adding a few additions to make them more palatable.  

Cook from scratch when possible.

We do a lot of “scratch” cooking.  If you know some basic cooking skills, you can make almost anything.  My family and I would agree that the food we make from scratch tastes better and is less expensive than prepared foods and even restaurant meals.

Teaching my son to use a pressure cooker.

The more you cook, the easier it gets. The same techniques are used repeatedly in cooking, so when you master a method with one recipe, you can use it in a dozen more.  

Consider buying a general cookbook like those from Better Homes and Gardens or Betty Crocker. They have time-tested recipes that use basic ingredients and are designed to work with inexperienced cooks. You can find hundreds of recipes online if you don’t want to do that. 

Cooking from scratch can save you money.

But I only have a microwave.

I have the benefit of a fully functional kitchen.  However, I know some live in basement and studio apartments and only have a mini-fridge and a microwave. You can make many things in a microwave.  I traveled out of town weekly for many years working until 10 PM.  I didn’t want to leave my hotel then and often made dinner in my room. Additionally, my kids have made many things in the microwave. We have made scrambled eggs, cakes and muffins, fish, BBQ turkey legs, rice, pasta, baked potatoes, bacon, regular oatmeal, tea, and much more.  

Adding one appliance, like a rice cooker or an electric frying pan, will exponentially open up your culinary world. If you live in a studio apartment, you don’t have to eat out every meal.

Clean as you go.

One of the biggest lessons I taught my kids was cleaning up as you go.  When I cook, I constantly wash items.  I may use the same measuring cup three times, and by the time the meal is ready, that cup has already found its way back into the cabinet. Nothing will discourage your cooking more than dealing with a mound of dishes at the end of the meal.  Cleaning up as you cook is a critical part of cooking from scratch.  

Build your supply of staple foods.

I was going to add a link to other authors’ lists of staple foods you should have in your pantry. I decided against it because many of those lists were extraordinarily long and included items I have never used in 50 years of cooking.

Staple foods are basic ingredients that you should always keep in your pantry. However, if you are budgeting, buying all of them at once is not feasible. I suggest reserving a portion of your weekly food budget for staple items.  

Start with the basic:  flour, sugar, baking powder, salt, pepper, cooking oil, garlic powder, onion powder, oregano, canned tomatoes, rice, potatoes, onions, carrots, celery, frozen ground meat, and the like.  Slowly build up your supplies as you can, watching for sales.

We have many staple items beyond this list, including curry powder, cinnamon, rosemary, thyme, hot sauce, powdered sugar, cut-up chicken, jar garlic, soy sauce, coconut milk, and more. However, we have built up those supplies slowly.  Having staple items allows you variety when cooking. There is something you can always make.  

Be flexible when cooking.

This is more of an advanced skill.  I’m not afraid to substitute one ingredient for another or to even omit an ingredient from a recipe.  The result may not be as intended, but it will still be good.  A simple example would be to exchange a can of whole tomatoes for crushed tomatoes.  However, this is just the start of what you can do.  If you don’t have a particular spice, you can often substitute with something similar or leave it out altogether.  Only have 1 pound of ground meat and the recipe calls for 1.5 pounds?  Make up the difference with another filler.  However, if you are just starting to cook, follow recipes as well as you can until you are wholly comfortable switching things around.  I’m usually successful at substituting ingredients but I still make “fatal errors” occasionally, so caution is advised. 

I made a soup/stew from whatever I could find in the fridge. Italian sausage, some wilted spinach, carrots, and this and that. It was delicious and the kids loved it. Cooking ad-lib takes a little practice so don’t be discouraged if your results are less than perfect the first few times.

Buy and eat less meat.

All meat is expensive, but beef takes the prize. Even cheap cuts are now costly.  Sometimes you can substitute one meat wholly or partially in a recipe.  For instance, you can do a 50/50 split of hamburger and ground pork when making meatloaf.  This will result in a tastier product.  We sometimes use ground turkey instead of ground beef with excellent results.

We often make many combination foods that use less meat. Think soups, stews, casseroles, hot dishes, stir fries, loaves, and more. These are delicious, filling, and nutritious and can often be made in a single pot or pan, so cleanup is a breeze. Making combination foods is as important as choosing the right grocery store to save money.

There are so many wonderful ways to use less meat. Here I’m serving a chicken and pepper stir-fry.
I picked up some butternut squash and turned it into a copycat Panera winter squash soup using an on-line recipe and my pressure cooker. I added a protein rich salad and a slice of homemade bread for a pretty darn good meatless dinner.

Consider meatless meals.

If you can go vegan or vegetarian, more power to you.  We are not there yet.  However, we will often have meatless meals that we all love. My kids get excited when we make homemade potato pancakes or mac and cheese, and my wife and I love lentil and bean dishes, which can be made with very little meat or are entirely vegetarian. There are many ways to make delicious foods that don’t require meat.

KISS

Keep it simple, silly.  Basic foods, ingredients, and cooking make a sustainable behavior change.

Do a food inventory and make a list before going to the store. 

Check out what you already have before going grocery shopping.  A time-honored way to save money at the grocer is to create and stick to a list.  Of course, don’t go to the store hungry!

Use it up.

We are good at using meat before it spoils and finishing leftovers (often for the next day’s lunch). However, we need to improve our use of fruits and vegetables. We are trying to do better by taking inventory of what fruits and vegetables are on hand and incorporating them into our meals. Additionally, we pay special attention to those items that are declining. For example, wilting celery is still terrific when used as an aromatic in a soup, stew, or casserole. 

Make what you have, not what you want.

We mostly avoid making meals based on what we have a taste for.  Instead we cook based on what we have on hand.  This eliminates another form of decision fatigue and allows us to use up items that would have gone bad.  My daughter used half of a jar of spaghetti sauce for a spaghetti lunch.  I used the remainder to make an impromptu pizza. 

Consider making a menu.

Another time-honored money-saving tip is to make a weekly menu. Sadly, I have been unable to do this formally. You may be better at this than I am. 

Make less/Eat less.

As a poor medical resident, I made enough food for two meals.  I would immediately separate half of the food into a travel container.  The first half would be my dinner, and the second half would be my lunch the next day.  I ate better than many of my cohorts who bought their food daily. 

I have constantly had to battle with obesity my entire life.  The first time that I lost 100 pounds was in the 7th grade!  I gain weight very quickly. I have adopted a way of eating called “cafeteria style.”  If you have ever bought a meal in a school cafeteria, you know you get a portioned amount of items. That is what you eat, no more.  When I eat at home, I portion out a similar amount of food and try (not always successfully) to only eat that amount.  There is no need for me to go back for seconds and thirds as to do so results in a negative outcome. 

My wife taught me the trick of using a smaller plate when eating dinner. Here I made a chicken paprikash, spaetzle, and some broccoli.

We often have leftovers that the kids take to work, but I try to make only a reasonable amount of food to avoid food waste.

Buy good items that are reaching expiration.

One of our local grocery stores often sold items nearing expiration but still perfectly good. Meats could be found for more than half off. I would buy these in bulk, portion them in vacuum-sealed bags, and then freeze them. However, recently, I have had a few experiences where I had to return meats as they were past their prime and I am no longer practicing that habit.  If you have a reputable store, find out when they re-label items for bargain prices. 

Portion out meals.

I avoid places like Costco as I always spend more than I intend.  However, I still shop there occasionally as the quality is excellent.  This is especially the case with bulk meats. 

When I get home, I divide the bulk package into meal-size portions and then vacuum seal and label each package for the freezer.  Meat can stay fresh with no freezer burn for over a year. 

We had to buy several major appliances last year from Costco, which gave me quite a few Costco bucks. I used them to buy meat that will last us a long time. I like to portion out the meat into vacuum seal bags and then freeze it.

Learn the art of preservation.

There are many ways to preserve food, here are two ways we do it:

The vacuum sealer

I have used a vacuum sealer since the early 1990s and have saved a lot of money in the process. I freeze meal-size portions of meat for main courses and vegetables for soups and stews. I’ll also freeze individual portions of leftovers that I can pop directly in boiling water for a quick lunch. Additionally, I freeze many dry items. For instance, I buy bulk rice, which I portion and vacuum seal in 1-2 pound bags.  

I now use a chamber style vacuum sealer, but a regular (and inexpensive) tray-style vacuum sealer also works well.

Name-brand vacuum sealer bags are excellent but expensive. I use off-brand brands with good results. Over the last few years, I have switched from a standard home vacuum sealer to a chamber-style one. Chamber vacuum bags cost only pennies, often the same price or lower than a Ziploc bag, but they are much stronger and more resistant to freeze burn. 

The freezer

We have owned a separate freezer for over 30 years.  It is a manual defrost model that costs very little to operate, only a few dollars a month.  The freezer allows us to buy cheaper meats in bulk (which I then divide up), buy items on sale, buy items that are good but are reaching their expiration date, and much more.  It is also convenient to have extra freeze space to hold that emergency frozen meal or an extra pizza to serve a friend who makes a surprise visit. 

Consider buying one of these appliances when you can afford to do so.

I am a gadget lover who has been buying small electrics for my entire adult life.  I have just about every gadget that you could imagine.  Some of you are likely attached to a small appliance and may covet your toaster oven, or rice cooker (to name a few)—more power to you.

However, two appliances stand out for working individuals who want to transition from eating out to making food at home. Consider one or the other (or both!).

I purchased a 2.5-quart, very basic slow cooker for $9 as a medical resident, and I used it extensively to make many different meals.  For instance, In the morning I would toss a couple of pork chops in it with a drained can of sauerkraut, a grated apple, a little brown sugar, and some caraway seeds (if I had them).  That evening I would have a delicious dinner (plus a lunch the next day) waiting for me.  

Slow cookers can be purchased for as little as $20 (fancy ones cost more) and are very easy to use. They are great for those who can plan meals in the morning, and they also save energy. I suggest a 4-quart size for an individual or small family and a 6-quart model for a larger family.

The other appliance to consider is a pressure cooker; the most energy-efficient appliance I have ever tested. Pressure cookers sometimes frighten people, but the new ones employ many safety features.  You can buy a stovetop or electric version; both have advantages.  I recommend an electric pressure cooker, like the Instant Pot, for the new cook.  If you shop around, you can buy a decent one for $60-$80.  Pressure cookers are great for those who don’t want to bother with morning prep but also don’t want to spend a lot of time cooking when they get home. Pressure cookers can cook food in about ⅓rd of the time compared to traditional cooking methods. You can make a delicious soup from scratch in under 13 minutes of pressure. A 3-quart pressure cooker works well for singles and couples, a 6-quart is best for most others.

A pressure cooker is a welcome addition if you want to make real food really fast.

With both appliances, you have the advantage of one-pot meals, which means less cleanup. It is also easy to make a larger batch for tomorrow’s lunch or to freeze away for a future meal. 

Should you upgrade your cooking gear?

You likely have everything that you need to make, just about anything that you want to make.  However, good equipment makes cooking easier.  I use an inexpensive pull-through knife sharpener every time I cook.  I use small electrics. I like quality cookware, and my Dutch oven is my favorite pot.  However, I have built my cooking gear over 50 years.  All you need is a chef’s knife, a big pot, a saucepan, a frying pan, and some cheap utensils.  You don’t need to spend a ton of money to save money.  Shop second hand or garage sales.  They are great places for cookware and appliances like crock pots.  Request items as gifts,  start a gear fund or shop sales, or do none of the above and work with what you have.  It is all good.

Conclusion.

Remember, progress, not perfection. You will likely fail if you immediately try to implement all of my suggestions. Come up with a solution to save money at the grocery store and then implement a few of my tips. Add and subtract options as indicated. 

We are not deprived in our household.  We eat very well while eating less highly processed food.  Yes, we have snacks and desserts too.  Our goal is to maximize our savings while minimizing deprivation. Try the same.

My kids made me this wonderful Father’s Day cake.
Saving grocery money is not about deprivation, it is about being reasonable. Here I’m having a delicious homemade strawberry shortcake.

Peace

Mike

Addendum: I mention my efforts and my kids a lot in this post. Please note that my wife is also involved in a lot of meal prep!

How Federal Money Changed My Life

I was raised in a blue-collar neighborhood and attended a horrible and dangerous public high school. My dad told me that my only higher education option was to attend the local community college, which I did for two years. There wasn’t money for a big university, and I had no one to guide or inform me about scholarships. 

In the “talents” department I had a lot of deficits.  I grew too fast, and so I was incredibly clumsy.  I’m blind in one eye, so I have little depth perception, making me terrible in sports. I’m naturally an introvert who loves to hang out in my brain and think of obscure things, so I would never be successful as a salesperson. I prefer to have deep relationships with people, so I have to limit how many of them I have as I devote myself to those individuals. Still, it takes a special person to tolerate me as I constantly process multiple thoughts, making it seem like I’m often in the clouds.  

I have written past posts citing my dyslexia. However, I use that as a shorthand term as people can relate to it. In reality, my brain works oddly on multiple levels, and I have had to devise my own solutions to basic skills, like being able to read—tasks that others master with standard instruction. I can understand the most complicated abstract subject, but I can’t remember a phone number and have tremendous difficulty remembering a person’s name (honestly, I try).  

I can often solve complicated problems with solutions that others don’t see. This has turned out to be my big strength. Completely unrelated information connects in my strange brain, as if there is a unifying law that joins everything. I used to think everyone thought like this and was shocked to discover that was not the case.

Educators liked how I thought outside the box, some even using the “G” word to describe me.  Between you and me, the idea that I’m a genius is ridiculous.  I have trouble spelling simple words, and have been known to get lost driving around my neighborhood!  In fact, my friend Tom sarcastically calls me by the name, “Pathfinder.” Yet, I have the ability to do well on academic tests, frequently breaking “the curve.” Go figure.

Teachers strongly encouraged me to pursue advanced educational goals and schools found ways to fund my tuition. I’m sure that some of that money was federal money.

My graduate education was completely paid for. When I applied and got accepted to medical school, I wanted to go to Northwestern, but it cost an enormous $14,000 a year (a joke compared to today’s massive tuition costs). I was about to sign on to another medical school that accepted me but Northwestern took care of me.

In the 1970s, I researched how proteins were extruded through cell membranes at the University of Illinois. At Northwestern, I was part of a research group that did basic cancer research. At the University of Chicago, I was a member of a team that used monoclonal antibodies to study MS. Now, monoclonal antibodies are used in cutting-edge medical treatment, and the process by which Multiple Sclerosis destroys the brain’s white matter is understood. Applied medicine starts with basic research.

As chief resident of psychiatry at Northwestern, I helped select newly minted doctors who wanted to become psychiatrists. As an attending doctor, I have worked with thousands of individuals, helping them with mental illness and addiction issues. I co-founded a clinic that employed others. As an assistant clinical professor at multiple medical schools I trained many medical students and residents.

I’m writing all of this not to brag, but to make a point. If the Federal government didn’t have programs that supported students there was the possibility that I would have wound up as a factory worker instead of a doctor.

My kids are smart and have been given fantastic educational opportunities and merit scholarships. They have seen their mother’s and my love of science and our desire to give back to the community. Having the benefit of their mother’s gene pool added to the unique way that I think, they lack my limitations and would do well in any discipline, including business and finance. However, they all have chosen to delay their careers to pursue advanced degrees that (for them) have meaning and help others.

One of my kids is in grad school studying how environmental change impacts insects. Insects are great research models because they have short lives, allowing researchers to examine the impact of changing conditions over multiple generations. This basic research may sound silly to the uninformed but has practical implications for the real world.

My child came home from a lab meeting yesterday and was very upset about the national halting of research funds for university research programs.  Like me, my child’s graduate education is being funded.  In return, they are giving up multiple earning years as they dedicate themselves to being a part of the solution to the catastrophic problem of climate change. My child’s PI says that my child’s funding is likely safe, at least for now.  However, others in the lab won’t be as lucky.  This university-wide funding freeze is having severe consequences in almost every research lab. The freeze will significantly impact how many new graduate students can be funded for next year’s entering class.

Some potential students will likely seek other avenues, like business, as getting an advanced science degree may become impossible, and employment opportunities post degree will become limited. The bottom line is that this one act could impact US research for many years.  Other countries will take advantage of our restriction, and even if the funding started to flow next month, a tremendous amount of damage has already been done that can’t be reversed.

Another of my kids joined the Peace Corps after college. They were willing to give up years of their earning lives to teach physics to kids in Africa. When COVID hit, everyone was evacuated back to the US. After two weeks in the States, all funding and health insurance benefits were cut off. My child had to go on Medicaid until they could find a new job. Imagine if they came back from Africa with an illness, like malaria, and were left high and dry? 

I know some people are anti-science, but think about what science has given everyone.  Every time you use your cell phone, get treated for an infection, heat food in your microwave, get help for substance abuse, and a million other things you have basic research to thank. 

Our country became great and a world leader because of the GI Bill, which allowed people who would have never been allowed to go to college that opportunity.  Some of those individuals developed the microchip, which makes everything from your cell phone to your TV work. Yes, it is easy for uninformed people to make fun of a study that may sound ridiculous on the surface.  Just dig a little deeper and those “crazy” research projects have significant implications in the real world.  

I don’t think I changed the world, but I moved the needle very slightly in a positive direction. Imagine a thousand like me.  Now think of 10,000 or 100,000 of us.  Helping others who want to help others helps everyone.  

The group that benefited most from DEI were white women (Contrary to what you may believe).  Women approach problems somewhat differently than men (excuse the generalization). That is a considerable asset, so I’m glad they benefited from that initiative. 

Around one third of federal employees are vets who have already sacrificed much.  I have worked for the federal government in the past, and as a physician I was underpaid compared to what I could generate in private practice. However, I was filling a necessary role.  It felt good, but you don’t become rich working for the fed. 

People believed that despite my many limitations, I was worth investing in. I have tried to repay their generosity 100 fold and have dedicated a significant part of my practice to help poorer and underserved populations. I am not alone in my desire to sacrifice to improve the world. Oh, and let’s not forget all the taxes I paid due to my higher economic status! 

My sage mother would tell me, “Don’t spite your face by cutting off your nose.”  Every organization has bloat. That is just a fact. Should the government make a strong effort to eliminate wasteful spending?  Of course it should.  However, the cure shouldn’t be worse than the problem.  Imagine if you had an infected foot, and were given two choices, give antibiotics to cure the infection or cut off the patient’s body at the waist?  You don’t have to be a doctor to use common sense in this situation.  However, it seems that common sense is becoming less common.

Peace,

Mike

The Day I Lost Tom Forever

It was the middle of the night when the phone rang. I woke up, startled, and stood up. An immense sense of dread washed over me; I was frozen. I couldn’t answer the phone. It was almost as if something was holding me back. Intuitively, I knew that Tom was gone. I didn’t need confirmation from the person on the other end of the line that it was over.

But what did I lose? What did I have? It was all a mystery to me then, as it is today—memories scattered to such a degree that I can’t even place them in chronological order. Wishes for a future never to be. Expectations never met. Questions never answered. All I could do was accept.

The terrible memories are the most persistent. However, with some thought, wonderful memories emerge and are more fulfilling. Where do I even start?

Today would be my brother Tom’s birthday. He would have been 84 today. But that was never to be; my brother died when he was 33 years old, and I was 20. We were just starting to form a connection with each other. It was nascent but had promise. I longed to know my brother, but circumstances were always against us.


I remember the news, but I don’t know where I was. Certainly, I heard it from my parents. My brother Tom, at 6’1” and husky build, seemed like a tower of health. However, he had gotten a cold that never went away, and when he went to the doctor, something rare in my family, simple blood work revealed a horrifying conclusion. My brother Tom had leukemia. The family GP recommended that he transfer his care to the University of Chicago. The local hospital was not capable of treating him. 

I was in my last year of college studying biology but had little medical knowledge. I planned to become a university professor and was interested in microbiology, not human physiology. The type of leukemia that my brother had generally responded to treatment. A cure recently developed, almost as if it was designed to help him. But then the reality of cancer hit.

When people talk about cancer, a particular veil of information is placed on it. No outsider understands the agony the individual and their family go through—perhaps that is for the best. There’s always an outpouring of sympathy and concern, but people move on. No one wants to hear lousy news, so the patient and the family tend to neutralize what they tell others. Sometimes, they do this to shield themselves. Tom was my first exposure to knowing someone on a close level who had cancer. This was my first time being upfront and in the center.

I was home from school for the summer, working as a Chicago Board of Education janitor. My father had used his clout in the board to get me the job. It was a summer program that hired college students to work in schools. This provided less expensive labor for the school’s many summer maintenance tasks and also provided students with jobs. I started these summer escapades years earlier and many years before I was eligible. You had to be  20 or 21 to get one of these jobs, and I started at 16. I was a tall kid but very much looked like a 16-year-old. I remember a union representative quizzing me about my age when he visited my job site. In my anxious state, I gave him a birth-date that aged me at 30 years. He raised his eyebrows but said nothing.

When my brother died, I remember one of the assistant school engineers coming to the funeral. I’m not even sure how he knew that my brother had died. I didn’t recall having much of a connection with this man. However, I still think of him fondly for his kindness in coming to comfort me that day. Acts of kindness do make a difference.

I wish I had more memories of my brother. I wish that we had done more things together. However, my brother was 13 years my senior. When I was 10, he was 23. His life was separated from mine.

I remember my brother Tom being big, strong, and dark in complexion. He had black hair from my mother’s side. I always liked my brother Tom. He was a kind soul, and I can’t remember any time that he made me feel bad.

The family consensus was that Tom was a bit on the morose side. This was based on his habit of sitting in his bedroom with the lights off while listening to the radio. However, I don’t know if that interpretation was wholly correct. I, too, like to sit in the dark. I don’t consider myself depressed; instead, I do it to tune out outside stimuli so I can think and concentrate. Was Tom the same?

One of my earliest memories of Tom is when he went off to college. I was around five then, and my parents and I drove him to Rensselaer, Indiana, so he could attend Saint Joseph’s College. I don’t have many memories of the college, but I remember being very impressed that he was going away to school.  

He had met a woman named Donna who worked with my sister Carol. She was some years older than Tom, and he fell madly in love with her. She was possessive and couldn’t deal with the fact that he was so far away. This meant that Tom was constantly returning to Chicago and not addressing his studies. I don’t know how long it took, I assume a year, but he failed out of school and returned home. Donna then dumped him. He gave away college for nothing.

He got an office job working for Union Carbide as he determined his next steps. He applied to multiple colleges, but many rejected him because of his academic failing at St. Joe’s. Eventually, one accepted him, Parsons College in Iowa. Tom attended Parsons and graduated with an excellent GPA, gaining a business degree. I remember attending his graduation with my parents. They were proud of his accomplishment. However, what I remember most was that it was a stormy day. At one point, I stood under a tree to shield myself. Suddenly, I felt tingling in my body and heard a massive crack and a boom above me. Lightning had hit the tree I was standing under, but I was unharmed. It was a miracle.

In this time frame, he met my sister Nancy’s friend, Lee. A romance developed, and then a marriage. I also remember that he was conscripted into the army at some point, or did he volunteer to shorten his time in service? 

I remember his wedding to Lee and his move to the Garfield Ridge neighborhood of Chicago. It was when he was married that he was diagnosed with leukemia. I recall visiting him at the University of Chicago hospitals. I remember how he went from being a hefty guy to skin and bones. I recall helping him into the car for a doctor’s visit. He was so skinny that his belted pants fell to his knees. I remember his voice going from strong to weak and raspy. I recall him being hospitalized and begging me for water, which he was not allowed due to an ileus.  I didn’t have the medical knowledge that I have now, and I was afraid even to give him a sip because I thought it would kill him. I still regret that decision. 

I also have a few other scattered memories of my brother. I remember him taking me to a James Bond movie when I was probably 12. I was thrilled to have him pay attention to me. My brother wrote me a few letters when I was in college, but I don’t remember receiving them. After my mother died, my father found some of the letters.  I suppose Tom didn’t have my address, so he gave them to my mom to mail to me, but life got in the way, and she forgot to do that. What a treasure it was to read them. There was no earth-shattering news, but they highlighted my brother’s wit and writing ability. It made me feel closer to him.

As I got older and our age difference narrowed, we slowly started to form an equal relationship. Sadly, his illness prevented any major progress in that area. With that said, I still have many warm thoughts for my brother Tom. I wish we had had more time together. I celebrate him and his life today. His birthday is February 8, 1941. Rest in peace, dear brother.

My post-surgery psychological state

It was late Friday evening, and we were both feeling vulnerable. I was slurping on a microwavable cup of tomato soup, and Julie was eating an open-face sandwich. We talked openly and discovered new things about ourselves, but more on that later.

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I thought I knew myself, but I’m always learning something new. Or perhaps I’m learning more about things that I already knew. I dreaded my elective surgery. I had heard terrible things about the recovery, but something else was bothering me, and I didn’t know what it was.

In my usual style, I planned and over-planned. I researched what others dealt with after shoulder surgery. I practice behaviors like taking a shower with only one hand. I purchased a few items that would aid my recovery. I set up a station in my family room where I could recover in a reclining chair with things to occupy my time and hold my interest. All of these things gave me a sense of control and comfort.

I had quite a bit of pain the first week, but that was expected. I was surprised at how vulnerable I felt and incapable of doing the simplest things.

Initially, my recovery felt like I was having a childhood snow day. I could do what I wanted without feeling guilty for not being productive. The first two days were wonderful in that regard, but then I fell into a slump, feeling both sorry for myself and somehow abandoned. This phase quickly moved into my usual state of accepting the situation, planning solutions, and looking forward. I focused on the fact that I was showing improvement every day, but it was still tough for me not to do what I did in my retirement, such as cleaning the house or shopping for groceries. This surprised me.

I’m a clear communicator, and before the surgery, I told people close to me what I needed from them.  In most cases, things went as expected, but I did have a few surprises. One person close to me got into a trivial fight with me. This was surprising because we had never fought before. Further, it was over something that had been settled many months ago. For a few days, that person barely talked to me and was unavailable to help me. Initially, I was hurt, then angry, and then hurt again. However, after thinking about it, I realized what was going on. I was always there for that person and was the person who could always solve their problems no matter what they were. I was their caretaker, and my illness frightened them. Luckily, that period of distancing was short and entirely resolved after a few days.

I have another very close connection who I told that I needed visits during my recovery. Seeing the discomfort on his face when I mentioned this surprised me. He did show up multiple times at my house with a cup of coffee in hand and was willing to engage in conversation; however, his level of anxiety was palpable. I always thought that this person had a germ phobia, but in reality, he has a fear of illness and a fear of being vulnerable. Seeing me ill was upsetting and threatening to him. I appreciated his willingness to visit me despite this considerable hurdle. However, I felt an obligation to ease him of his pain. I emphasized to him how well I was improving while doing whatever I could to give him a pass not to visit. 

What surprised me the most was what I learned about myself. These were not entirely new revelations; they emphasized common recurring themes. I pride myself on being a problem solver and a take-charge person. I pride myself on being able to rely entirely on myself. To be honest, I pride myself that I don’t need anyone. However, this last statement is ridiculous.  It is in my psyche as a protective mechanism allowing me to pull away and seal over if someone is hurting me or (worse) abandoning me. The above traits have been key to my successful life.  However, they are only part of an incomplete story.

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The kids were away for the evening, which added raw quiet to the room. So there we were on that Friday night. Julie asked me if I wanted anything for dinner. I wasn’t very hungry, but I asked her to heat up a microwaveable cup of tomato soup and to make me a half-sandwich. I made a pot of tea to assuage my guilt of not being productive. We both had a rough week.

Julie had her cancer check-up.  Thankfully, she got an all-clear on the cancer front.  However, a new and potentially serious problem from her radiation therapy was discovered. She was stressed from this and the added burden of doing many of the jobs I usually did. Just the day before, she had twice locked her keys in her office, requiring the building super to come to her aid. She told me how guilty she felt that I was left alone during my second week of recovery.  This surprised me, and I reassured her that I could occupy my time and care for my basic needs. She noted that she thought others must think of her as horrible for working and leaving me alone. I told her that was not the case. It was clear that she was emotionally exhausted, just like I was.

Her vulnerability opened a door in my mind and allowed me to access my vulnerability.  I told her how guilty I felt about relying on others, but there was more to my feelings. There was a real fear that those who I love would not be willing to help me during my time of need.  A genuine concern that they would reject me, perhaps ridicule me.  A fear that I would be abandoned and alone.  That fear fueled me to go grocery shopping for the family 10 days into my recovery.  I prided myself on the fact that I could pack and transport bags of groceries only using my left hand. That fear is what pushed me to practice preparing food and taking a shower only using my left hand the week before surgery.  That fear drove me to tell my friend I needed him to visit me.  That fear is what caused my anger and hurt when a loved one got into an argument with me days after my operation.  

I realized how I had turned fear into an asset as a young child. I combined it with anger to become independent and self-sufficient. I used it to reject other’s views that I would never amount to anything, and to build a sense of self-confidence.  But now, in a vulnerable state.  A time when I couldn’t be independent.  At a time when I needed help even to make a sandwich, my core fear was re-emerging.  

When I become frightened, I instantly go into my head. I problem-solve, analyze, and journal to dig deeper.  You can see that process in real time in this blog post. In reality, I do need people in my life.  In fact, I have been reasonably independent during my early recovery stage.  I can shower, dress myself, and prepare simple meals for myself.  In reality, I do feel bad that I can’t take care of my family and friend’s needs.  But I know that situation is temporary.  My childhood caretaking traits were likely a defense against my fear of abandonment.  However, they are now a well-established habit that gives me pleasure and a sense of genuine worth.

There is a theme that runs through my life and my blog posts. Things are neither good nor bad. It is how we view them that determines their meaning.

Somehow, as a very young child, I was able to take fear and anger and turn those feelings into strength—an imperfect strength, but a strength that has served me well throughout my life. Suppose I hadn’t faced certain situations in my early life. In that case, I don’t think I would have developed my problem-solving, empathy, and self-confidence abilities, which allowed me to do some amazing things. I find that counterpoint very interesting.

Things are neither good nor bad…they just are. What we do with them is what matters.

Peace

Mike

How I survived my first two weeks after rotator cuff surgery.

The recovery from shoulder surgery is often worse than the surgery itself. I had a rotator cuff injury that needed to be repaired. Since this was an elective procedure, I had some time to prepare for it, and I’d like to share some of that information with others who may be planning on a similar procedure. I’m posting this for informational and educational purposes only. This is not medical advice, and you should always follow the instructions from your caregivers.

How you compensate for having an arm in a sling will be determined by whether you are having surgery on your dominant arm or not. I had surgery on my right shoulder, which is also my dominant arm. Trying to do things with my left hand was awkward.

About a week before the surgery, I started to practice using only my left hand for basic functions like dressing and showering. I also tried to prepare simple meals using only that arm. It’s more complicated than you think, but it was easier to practice while I still had a functioning right arm to take over when needed. I discovered that there were some things that I could do well when practicing, but they became more difficult postop. For instance, I could put on a shirt using only one arm before surgery, but I needed assistance doing the same job once I had surgery.  Update: I was able to put on a shirt by myself after a week post-op, but it was very uncomfortable to do.

I didn’t realize how huge my sling would be.

Assistance needed

Luckily, my family could assist me with jobs that would be difficult to do by myself, like removing my surgical bandage and replacing it with a waterproof barrier. If you are in a position where you are flying solo, discuss this with your doctor before your surgery. Perhaps you’ll need a nurse to check in on you. It’s always easier to arrange options beforehand.

I needed help with tasks like removing my surgical bandage and replacing it with a waterproof barrier. You can also see the breakaway shirt I purchased in this photo. It was helpful during my first three days as I couldn’t get a regular shirt over the bandage.

Setting things up

Most doctors suggest sleeping at an incline after rotator cuff surgery. Sleeping flat can be difficult as it places more pressure on your shoulder. People usually sleep in a recliner, but technically, you could sleep in a bed with a wedge pillow or on a couch with stacked pillows. I used a recliner.

My couch has built-in recliners on both ends and since my left hand would be free, I chose the end I could control with that hand. I decided to set up a recovery zone as I’d be spending a lot of time in that space. I ensured the end table next to my “nest” had a lamp I could access. I also had a spot for medication, a charging station for electronic devices, a cup of water, and space for gadgets I enjoy using. 

This was the nest that I built. You can see my camper’s refrigerator freezer, then a small waste basket. Above the wastebasket is a TV tray with some electronics, and behind that is a table with medication, water, and a charging station. You can also see my back support, neck pillow, and other pillows that I used to make myself comfortable. Naturally, your needs may be different than mine.

Some people love books, and naturally, they should have books available. I’m more of an electronics person who reads books and magazines on a screen. I also write on a laptop, listen to music and the news, and do almost everything on a computer. I have a lightweight laptop, which I thought would be perfect. However, after surgery, I had a great deal of difficulty handling it as it was slippery, and when I tried to use my right hand to manipulate the mousepad, it caused me quite a bit of pain. Luckily, I have a small iPad Mini that I use when I travel. That was the perfect device, as I could easily manipulate it with one hand. In fact, I’m using speech to text dictation on it to type this post.

You might find yourself in a situation similar to mine, so it makes sense to see if you have a tablet computer around the house that you can use; if not, perhaps you can borrow one. I thought my iPad Mini’s 8-inch screen size was perfect. I would have bought a cheap tablet in a pinch if I did not have access to the Mini.  I think any tablet with a screen of 7-11 inches would be usable, but an eight or nine-inch screen size is ideal as it allows for ample viewing and one-handed operation. Some can get by using their phone, but my phone’s screen was too small for me to view for long periods.

Some Android tablets can be bought for under $100, which would be worthwhile if you think you would use the device after your recovery. Small tablets make good e-readers and are great for media consumption when you’re lounging about. iPads are the best tablets (in my opinion), but inexpensive Android-based tablets can do most of the things a tablet user needs to do. Cheap Android tablets are unsuitable for high-resource games but can play simple games.  If you are looking for affordable yet reputable tablets, consider the 8” Amazon Fire tablet or the 8” Walmart Onn tablet.  Both are basic, but they work.  The Onn tablet’s advantage is that it runs regular Android and can access millions of apps. The Fire tablet’s app store is more limited, but the tablet is tightly integrated into the Amazon ecosystem of Kindle ebooks, Prime videos, and Prime music.  

My inability to use my computer lasted about a week. After that point, I was able to type with both hands. However, doing this for any length of time got my shoulder going. For quite a while post-op, I preferred the tablet, as it placed less strain on my right arm.

Regarding my recliner, I watched a YouTube video from an occupational therapist who recommended using supports for the neck and the back. The back support could be anything from an actual back support to a rolled towel to a small pillow. We had a removable back support on an office chair that I used. For my neck, I used a simple donut-style travel pillow, the kind you use on an airplane. Both supports made a difference as I tried sleeping with and without them, and I felt more comfortable with the supports in place.

I also had a variety of pillows and blankets that I could configure as my mood dictated. It can be challenging to sleep in a chair, and I wanted to maximize my comfort as much as possible. Overall, my recliner nest worked out well. However, after about a week of sleeping in a chair, I was ready to try my regular bed with a wedge pillow.

Hygiene

The more independent you can be, the better. Before my surgery, I practiced taking showers with one hand. It wasn’t as tricky as it sounds, but I had to adjust. I usually use bar soap, but I needed to give that up for shower gel in a pump bottle. The pump made it easy for me to get the soap out. I bought a shampoo and shower gel combo that worked for me. However, some people prefer separate products. I recommend getting all of those in pump bottles.

I bought a combination of shampoo and shower gel that came with a pump bottle. However, if you want to be fancy, you can go with decorator bottles that do the same.

It’s difficult to wash under your arms during recovery from rotator cuff surgery. I purchased an inexpensive sponge on a flexible rod from Amazon that helped in that area. I usually use a stick-type deodorant, but applying that post-op was impossible. Instead, I bought some deodorant in an aerosol can. These simple things allowed me to shower independently.

This sponge stick was inexpensive. But it allowed me to wash areas that I couldn’t do postop.

Your doctor will give you specific instructions on showering. My doctor told me that I could remove my bandage in three days. At that point, he told me to cover my incision sites with waterproof material. The only times that I was allowed to take off my sling were during showering, physical therapy, and putting my clothes on. I felt more secure keeping my arm in a sling when showering, and I purchased an inexpensive mesh sling from Amazon. Some patients will buy an inexpensive standard sling from the drugstore for showering, which serves the same purpose. You don’t want to get your expensive prescription sling wet.

I only used this shower sling a few times until I was comfortable showering while keeping my arms still. However, it was very inexpensive and made me feel more secure when I did use it.

I’m fortunate that our shower head detaches from the wall. We also had a shower chair from a past surgery that I could use. These things made my shower life a little easier, but I could have adapted to a less perfect situation if necessary.

Most doctors will ask you to protect your surgical site from water until the incisions are healed. They will tell you to use a waterproof barrier, and I found that Tegadem worked well. This is a transparent film that is breathable but waterproof. It comes in sheets of various sizes and clear bandages. Bathing in a tub should be avoided until your wound sites completely heal.

Men, I recommend sitting for all bathroom tasks until you are steady on your feet. Adapting wiping techniques is straightforward with a bit of creativity. However, I was fortunate to have a bidet.

I use an electric toothbrush and recommend that for anyone undergoing this procedure. You could use a regular toothbrush, but it would be a bit awkward. If possible, get a tube of toothpaste that has a flip-open lid instead of a screw cap.

I’m retired, and I’m letting my beard grow. However, if I had to be tidy, I would switch from my regular razor to an electric razor, which I believe I could manage with one hand.

Ice

Most doctors recommend that you ice your shoulder regularly after surgery. In my case, my doctor wanted me to ice 20 minutes on and 20 minutes off. Right after surgery, my very thick shoulder bandage blocked any coolness to my shoulder. However, I could place an ice pack close to my wound site by tucking it up into my sling, and that provided some comfort.

The surgicenter discharged me with a cheap disposable ice bag that I could fill with ice cubes and water. This was a poor solution. My sister gave me blue gel ice packs she used for her knee surgery. They worked well. They remained flexible when frozen, making it easy to place them where I needed to, and they stayed cold for a long time. 

A variety of companies sell these gel ice packs. They’re inexpensive, flexible, and stay cold for a long time.

She also lent me a cool therapy ice machine but couldn’t find her AC adapter. I ordered one on Amazon, and it arrived three days after my surgery. The ice machine was terrific as it provided a constant cold to my wound site (by then, I had my bandage off). I found that freezing disposable water bottles worked better than using ice cubes. I had two sets of water bottles and would freeze one while using the other. Naturally, there was also water in the therapy machine as that was what was circulated to my shoulder. I think buying an expensive cool therapy machine for shoulder surgery would be overkill, but if you can borrow one or if your insurance will cover the rental of one, I would highly recommend it; otherwise, I liked the inexpensive gel packs.

Cool theory machines are excellent. But they’re pretty expensive.

When I retired, I built a camper van with a friend. The build included a chest-style refrigerator/freezer. I moved the camper’s fridge to my family room to freeze my ice packs and water bottles. I also kept some frozen meals in it. I still have kids at home who are always on the hunt for a quick meal, and keeping some meals in my little freezer ensured I had easy-to-make food on hand. My camper fridge/freezer was a convenient option. I used it because I had it. Otherwise, a regular freezer would be fine.

Food

Preparing and eating food can be challenging, even for simple tasks like opening a can. Luckily, many inexpensive adaptive gadgets can help with everything from opening a jar to pulling a pop top. 

These silicone mats are not only great for gripping, but they can also stabilize a jar or a bowl on the table.
This pop top puller was only a few dollars and was very welcomed by my cat, who demands to be fed first thing in the morning

Generally, I went for food items that I could prepare with one hand. I purchased some single-serving frozen dinners that I could easily make in a microwave. I also purchased soup in cans. As far as the soups were concerned, we already had a microwavable bowl cozy. This allowed me to take the bowls from the microwave without scalding myself. If I hadn’t had the cozy, I think it would have been safer to heat them on our induction stove.

A friend made us this soup cozy several years ago. We use it all the time. It’s convenient when taking hot bowls out of the microwave.

Fortunately, my wife and kids took turns making dinner, so there was something to eat at dinner time. However, lunchtime was more on my clock; I picked things I could easily make and never went hungry.

Clothing

Dressing can be a challenge. It’s much easier if you can stay at home during your early recovery, which is what I did. Starting from the feet, I recommend slippers or socks that pull on easily. If you are going out, wear slip-ons or those shoes from Kizik and Skechers that can be put on hands-free.

Stretchy underwear helps, and elastic waistband-type pants are a must. The pants could be sweatpants, pajama pants, or whatever you have. In warmer weather, elastic waistband workout shorts would work. You don’t want to wear pants with buckles and zippers, as both are difficult to close with one hand.

Most recommend using button-down shirts, as getting them around your wounded shoulder is more manageable. Stretchy T-shirts also work. It’s January, but I’m wearing a short-sleeve shirt, as pulling on a long-sleeve is difficult for me.

I purchased a special shirt for shoulder injuries that had snaps along its edge, allowing me to open up one side of the shirt. This was helpful during the first three days of my recovery as I was wearing a gigantic bandage on my injured shoulder, making it impossible to pull any regular shirt over it. After the bandage was off, I could wear button shirts and stretchy T-shirts.

Some crafty folks buy a few cheap tee shirts, split them along their seams, and reattach the two sides with Velcro. If you are a non-sewer, you can use scissors to open the bottom of the arm of a cheap tee shirt to accommodate the shoulder bandage. If desired, you can reattach the opening using safety pins.

This should go without saying, but always sit when you put on your clothing. Standing carries the potential for a fall, a disaster for your healing shoulder. A little stool works well, as does sitting on the toilet seat.

Pain management

You’ll likely be offered a nerve block, an optional procedure. My anesthesiologist highly recommended it. It numbed my arm from surgery to about 8 p.m. and was a godsend. At 8 PM, I started to feel some pain and took a pain pill plus naproxen per my doctor’s instructions. However, at two in the morning, I woke up in horrific pain, at which point I took another pain pill. Unfortunately, that one took about an hour before it kicked in. After that point, I was pretty aggressive with my pain management, especially at night. I would set an alarm to wake me so I could take a dose before the last pill wore off. This allowed me to sleep and kept my pain down to a manageable level. The pain does get better every day, so I was able to taper the narcotic pills over time. Naturally, I always followed my doctor’s advice and instructions.

A word of advice. If you think you’ll be taking medication during the night, it sometimes makes sense to have that medication out and ready in a little container. In a sleepy state, you may take the wrong medicine or too much medication if you pour it out of a medicine bottle. In addition, you can invert the “child-proof” cap on most prescription medicine bottles to turn them into simple screw caps.  With both of the above suggestions, use common sense if you have little ones about; you don’t want them getting into your medications.

Other medications

My doctor gave me a prescription medication for nausea, which surprised me. I’ve had other surgeries and never suffered from long-term nausea postop. However, I had quite a bit of nausea after this surgery and was grateful to have the prescription medication.

Doctors often recommend taking some sort of stool softener, which may be a pill or just extra fiber. Narcotic pain medication can be constipating, and no one wants to have to deal with that, along with shoulder pain. If your doctor doesn’t prescribe some sort of stool softener, ask for his or her recommendations on this topic.

Cautionary note

There’s a lot of advice about rotator cuff surgery on YouTube from patients and orthopedic surgeons. You must follow your doctor’s advice. Different doctors do different procedures, and taking another doctor’s advice could potentially hamper your recovery.

Likewise, although the patient-created YouTube videos I watched seemed sincere, their suggestions varied. Use common sense when watching them. I used them primarily for mobility tips rather than orthopedic advice. 

I also found videos from occupational therapists discussing topics like getting dressed or sleeping in a recliner. I found those the most helpful.

Final thoughts

Rotator cuff surgery is relatively common but can be an unpleasant recovery. With planning, life becomes more manageable. Make sure you follow your doctor’s advice. You’ll be given written instructions that you should read several times. I found information on my second read that I missed on the first. Remember not to push your recovery limits, as you could potentially re-tear your rotator cuff and cause more problems—best of luck.

The above is my personal opinion and should not be construed as medical advice.

Images are my own and from various websites and are used for educational purposes only.

The 99 dollar Walmart tablet.

As my relatives age, I have become increasingly aware of the importance of seniors having internet access. It is how we communicate, entertain ourselves, do business activities, and shop. Most of us have some sort of smartphone, but if you are a senior, it can be challenging to view a tiny screen or to press tiny on-screen buttons.

My oldest sister is in her 80s and no longer chooses to deal with the hassle of a laptop.  Yet, she wants to stay current with social media and news outlets. She switched to an iPad some years ago and hasn’t looked back. 

The advantage of a tablet computer, like an iPad, is that it is very hands-on and graphical. Open a program? Press an icon. Turn the page when reading an e-book?  Swipe.  Fill in a form?  Touch a text box and tap in your answer using the sizeable on-screen keyboard.  Watch a YouTube video? Press and go!  There is no need to type commands or even navigate a mouse.

In a recent post, I wrote extensively about laptops and tablets for seniors. A tablet is the way to go for those who are technologically challenged. The basic iPad is my number one tablet recommendation for seniors; it retails for around $350. It is very intuitive and a pleasure to use. However, $350 can be out-of-range for some, so I also listed (and tested) a couple of sub-two hundred dollar tablets that ran the Android operating system.  Although not quite as nice as the iPad, they were still very useable.

While researching the topic, I found several favorable reviews of Walmart’s Onn 10.1 tablet (2024 version). This tablet intrigued me because it was less than $100.  Some seniors have minimal incomes, but many can afford $100. Additionally, a $100 gifted tablet from a friend or loved one would not be out of the question.  Lastly, at the other end of the age spectrum, a $100 tablet could be a reasonable choice for a child who always wants to play with mom’s smartphone.  Would such a device be useable or an exercise in frustration? That is what I decided to test.

For those interested in the bottom line, the Walmart Onn 10.1 tablet (2024 version) is a viable solution for those on a budget. If you can afford a basic iPad, go with that. Even a sub-two hundred dollar Android table will give you a better experience than the Onn 10.1. However, after testing the Onn for several weeks, it is entirely usable and would serve the needs of most seniors. Please note that I’m reviewing the 2024 version. Walmart sells a 2022 version for less than $60, but its 2 GB of RAM is inadequate. In addition, that tablet is running an outdated version of Android. 

Let’s dig into the weeds.

The Walmart Onn 10.1 (2024 edition) tablet is available in several colors for a low price of $99.00.  Various cases can be had for an additional $10-20. It is highly recommended that you purchase a protective case, preferably one with a way to stand the tablet up for movie watching.

Hardware

The Onn 10.1, 2024 edition features 3 GB of RAM and 32 GB of memory/storage.  This is the bare minimum needed for a modern tablet. Running a single app at a time (like Facebook) takes a few seconds to load, but once loaded, it runs well.  This tablet is not suited to run multiple programs at once.  The 32 GB of memory/storage is sufficient for most casual users who want to play simple games, check in to Facebook, watch Netflix, etc.  This tablet has a micro-SD expansion slot, so you can inexpensively add additional storage. This extra storage would be helpful for those who have significant storage needs—for instance, those wanting many movies stored directly on their tablet. 

Memory/Storage

The Onn comes preloaded with a lot of useful software, including:

Gmail (email program) 

Google Maps (mapping program) 

Google Drive (cloud storage)

Google TV (TV-watching app, subscription needed)

Play Books (e-books similar to Amazon Kindle. Some books are free, others purchased) 

Google Wallet (e-wallet to pay for things, use e-hotel keys, carry an e-driver license and more)

Google Contacts (e-address book)

Google Photos (photo storage in the cloud and photo editing)

YouTube (video-watching site)

Google Meet (video conferencing similar to ZOOM)

Google Calendar (e-calendar)

A calculator 

An alarm clock/timer

And more

I loaded some additional apps that seniors might use, including simple games. Your app needs could be different.  I was primarily interested in seeing how much storage would be left on the tablet after loading a “typical” number of apps.  It is very easy to add apps using the included Google Play store.  These are the apps that I added:

Netflix (for movie and TV watching)

Facebook (social media app)

Facebook Messenger (a texting app).

WhatsApp (a texting, voice calling, and video chat program).

Google Chat  (texting and video chat program).

The Weather Channel (weather information).

Jewel/Osco (a grocery/pharmacy app for online shopping and prescription renewal).

Amazon (shopping app).

eBay (shopping app).

State Farm (car/home insurance app).

Solitaire (game).

Candy Crush (game).

Chess (game).

Docs (Google’s free word processor).

Sheets (Google’s free spreadsheet program).

My Chart (Portal to healthcare providers).

Spotify (streaming music app).

Epson Print (print and document scanning for Epson printers)

Note: I use a nation-wide bank which has an app.  However, the Onn was incompatible with that app (although other bank apps were compatible).  However, I could still easily access my bank using its website via the included Chrome Internet browser. 

After adding these programs, 10 GB of the 32 GB of initial storage remained. That is plenty to store a bunch of photos or documents. A 128 GB micro-SD card can be purchased for around $10 if more storage is needed.  

Display

The 10” display is the perfect size for most. It is large yet easy to hold. The Onn 10.1 tablet (2024) has a screen resolution of 1280 x 800, less than many tablets. Photos and videos look fine. Print is OK but not as crisp as on tablets with higher pixel counts. I was initially very aware of the softer-looking text, but I adjusted to it over time. However, it may be tiring to read very long documents.  

Watching Videos/Video Calls

I had no problems watching videos on this tablet.  The images were sharp and clear.  

I tried several video chat programs, including WhatsApp, Facebook Messenger, and Google Chat, and I could make video calls.  The 2 MP front-facing camera was not the greatest, but it did the job well enough. 

Video calls worked pretty well.

Texting

I tried texting using several apps, including WhatsApp, Google Chat, and Facebook Messenger.  They all worked well.  You can also link your phone and send standard text messages from this tablet, but I didn’t try that function.

Using the included Chrome browser

Tablets from years past used inferior browsers, but newer tablets, like the Onn 10.1 (2024), have browsers that look similar to their PC counterparts. I had no problem viewing websites, filling out forms, or checking bank balances.

Email

You need a free Google Gmail account to log into any Android device, including this tablet. It is easy to sign up for one.  If you already use a non-Google email address, add that account to the Gmail mail client or use a separate dedicated app or website client. 

Logging in

To open this tablet, you must enter an eight-number digital password. The Onn does not have sophisticated security functions like face or fingerprint recognition. 

Operating speed

My iPad instantly opens apps, while the Onn takes a few seconds. My iPad can run multiple programs simultaneously, while the Onn is best at running just one program at a time.  Scrolling on my iPad was smooth as butter but a bit less smooth on the Onn. However, none of these are deal breakers.  I would have been pleased with its performance if I hadn’t directly compared the Onn to my iPad.

Battery life/charging speed

Battery life was excellent.  I used the Onn extensively for two days and still had a battery to spare. However, charging times are slow. It is best to plug in the Onn overnight to prepare for the next day.

Speakers

The Onn’s on-board speaker is loud but lacks bass and is a bit harsh.  However, it was perfectly useable.

Ports/headphone jack

The Onn lacks a headphone jack, a trend in many newer tablets. However, you can still connect headphones, dramatically improving the tablet’s sound. 

The only port on the Onn is a multi-function USB C port. This port allows you to charge the Onn and connect it to many things. You can connect wired USB-C headphones, which can be purchased inexpensively, and other peripherals, like a keyboard or hub. 

WiFi/Bluetooth

I found it easy to connect the Onn to my WiFi network, and the connection was stable.  The Onn has Bluetooth capabilities that can connect many things, from wireless keyboards to wireless headphones/earbuds. 

Cameras

The Onn has a front-facing 2 MP and a rear-facing 5 MP camera. The photo quality is barely acceptable. It is good enough to send a friend a photo of an outfit you bought or have a video call with the grand-kids. Better tablets have better cameras.

The 2 MP front camera is usable for video calls.
The 5 MP rear camera was pretty poor with terrible dynamic range and detail.

Build

The build quality is surprisingly good with an aluminum case.  However, the case is a bit slippery.

Accessories to consider

A case is a must, as the Onn is slippery.  I bought a cheap $10 case, which is fine, but it could not prop up the Onn.  I would spend a few dollars more and buy a case that props up the Onn for movie-watching. 

Headphones are also nice, providing much better audio quality and private listening. USB-C headphones can be plugged in, and the Onn can also use wireless headphones and earbuds via Bluetooth. 

Bluetooth keyboards come in a variety of sizes and styles.  Some are full-sized, others are part of a case, and still others can be folded for travel.  They are handy if the user plans on doing a lot of keyboard work on their tablet, such as writing long emails. 

Bottom line

Yes, there are better tablets, my favorite being the iPad. However, for less than $100, the Onn 10.1 (2024 edition) provides excellent value and can do almost any basic task that an average senior needs. If money is tight, I recommend the Onn 10.1 (2024 edition), available only at Walmart or Walmart.com.

I Just Got An iPhone 16 Pro Max! My Impression? Meh

I remember when one of my training supervisors got a car phone.  He told me, “You wouldn’t believe how much time it saves me, Mike.  I return all my calls while I’m driving home!”  I was pretty stoked about the technology.  How amazing it would be not to have to hunt for a slimy public phone when I needed to return a page.  “When I get a real job, the first thing I’m going to do is have a car phone installed,”  I said to myself. 

That opportunity came during my first year as an attending physician. A Christmas bonus from my boss covered the high $2000 price, not for a car phone but for an even more fantastic phone I could carry.  

I recall the excitement that I felt when I purchased it in 1988.  It was a Panasonic and roughly the size of a box of cigars.  The phone had a separate handset and was powered by a lead acid camcorder battery.  It was so heavy that its strap would hurt my shoulder if I had to carry it more than a block, and its only abilities were making and receiving phone calls.  Yet, people would stop me on the street and ask, “Is that a phone?”  When I nodded, they sometimes gasped and uttered, “Wow,” under their breath.  It was incredible, and I felt cool having it.

I thought I was pretty cook carrying around my Panasonic “mobile phone.”

After a few years of breaking my back, it was time to upgrade, but I can’t remember to what. I’m sure it was one of those candy bar-style phones, as they were much smaller and lighter. Sometime during the mid-1990s, I got a Motorola StarTec flip phone, one of the skinny ones that easily could slip into my pants pocket. I felt that I was riding on the cutting edge of technology.

This flip phone was state-of-the-art when I bought it in the late ’90s. Mine was a cool “putty” color.

I had a few other phones in the 2000s, but their memory has faded. 

During that same period, I used electronic organizers called PDAs (Pocket Digital Assistants) and went through a series of them, including several from Sharp. I eventually landed on a Handspring Visor that used the Palm operating system. That device was terrific, as it easily synced to my computer and could run useful programs, many of which were free. What would it be like to combine the features of my PDA with a phone in one little box? I pondered. Others obviously thought the same thing, and a few years later, smartphones hit the market. 

I had a few Sharp PDA-style organizers. They looked pretty cool, but you lost all of your data if the battery went dead. Plus, they were a pain to backup on a computer.
One of the doctors I knew told me about his Palm Pilot, and I bought a Handspring Visor, which ran Palm OS. Wow, that was a great device. It was small, efficient, could run programs, and had a matching app for my computer. I enjoyed using it.

You may think Apple invented the smartphone, but that is untrue. Apple was late to the game, introducing its first iPhone in 2007. Before that time, most smartphones had physical keyboards, and Apple’s keyboardless design was so unique that then-CEO of Microsoft Steve Ballmer ridiculed it, saying, “There’s no chance that the iPhone is going to get any significant market share.” He was obviously wrong.

I had a primitive and clunky Windows CE smartphone and then an early Android phone from HTC. The latter would spontaneously reboot itself right during a phone call. The HTC was so terrible that I started to refer to it as a dumbphone. 

I had a Windows CE Smartphone similar to this one. It looked cool, but its software was super clunky. I thought the phone used a light version of Windows, but that was in name only. It ran its own OS which was pretty terrible.
I upgraded to this HTC phone, which used an early version of Android. I researched the phone, and its initial reviews were great. However, it had hardware problems and would constantly crash, often in the middle of a phone conversation.

Patients would come into my office and show me their new iPhones.  They were as proud as if they were telling me about a fabulous trip abroad or their new Mercedes.  Even the early iterations of the iPhone were spectacular.  Where my dumbphone took grainy photos, their iPhones did a decent job.  Things we now take for granted, like watching a YouTube video on a phone, were utterly unique and impressive. During that time, Apple had an ad campaign emphasizing what an iPhone could do.  For every problem, there’s an app for that, the commercials said.  Many other smartphones of the day seemed to be works in progress, but the iPhone had its act together.  It was a next-generation device. 

People were so proud of their new iPhones that they would pull them out and show them to me.

I eventually gave up on my dumbphone and bought an iPhone.  I can’t remember which version, possibly an iPhone 3 or 4.  I was already using a Mac, and purchasing an iPhone solidly transformed me into an Apple fanboy. I followed iPhone news and rumors the way that some follow sports teams. I was not alone, as people would wait overnight in line to get their hands on the latest model.  It seemed like every version was more impressive than the last.

My first iPhone looked something like this.

I joined with the others, buying a new phone every 2-4 years, and each time, I was amazed at the model’s meaningful advances. I’m a photographer, and the cameras got better and better.  Newer phones worked on updated cell frequencies, allowing me to call from more remote places. The phones seamlessly integrated with my Mac, permitting me to start a project on one device and finish it on another.  The phones had ever-improving GPS to get me to my destination despite my poor sense of direction.  Video calling was available on other devices, but it was pretty awful.  Apple’s FaceTime worked well. An iPhone could record excellent video, so I could leave my camcorder behind when attending my kids’ events. The advantages continued; I felt like I was carrying a miracle in my pocket. 

Although many of the advances were software-based, they were fueled by ever more powerful and sophisticated hardware.

I traded in my iPhone 10 for an iPhone 12 Pro Max. The new phone had three rear cameras, giving me regular, wide-angle, and telephoto lenses. That flexibility allowed me to leave my pro camera behind, even when traveling. It was a significant advancement.  However, there was something concerning about that phone. It was of a lower build quality than my previous iPhones. At one point, the battery swelled for no reason and cracked the screen. Then, the lightning connector failed, causing me to upgrade to an iPhone 14 Pro Max. A phone that I have used until last week. The iPhone 14 also had significant improvements over previous versions.  Notably, It could connect to satellite emergency services if it was out of cell coverage range.  I travel to remote places that lack cell coverage, making that feature highly desirable. 

I did not intend to replace my iPhone 14 Pro Max; however, I noticed its lightning connector was starting to fail. I was also aware that my battery was degrading faster than the batteries on previous models. I pondered if Apple was practicing a little planned obsolescence. 

My 14 Pro Max had an excellent trade-in value, so I decided to upgrade my phone before the port worsened or other things started to break, as they would lessen the amount of trade-in cash I would get. I now have an iPhone 16 Pro Max. Is it the game-changer that previous generations were? I would say no.  This phone is two generations beyond my last phone; it is more advanced on paper. It has better hardware, a bigger screen, extra buttons, and Apple Intelligence.  The camera is also different, and the faster processor allows for a few more software tricks.  However, with this iteration, the advancements don’t translate into performance differences that impact me in any way.  Additionally, the software changes, like Apple Intelligence, seem more like novelties I had already used via other AI outlets. I’m sure that at some point in the future, Apple Intelligence will be the bomb, but by then, my 16 Pro Max will be outdated. 

My new iPhone works great, but its new features don’t wow me like past versions of iPhones.

In the US, around 60% of phone users have an iPhone.  Yes, new iPhones continue to offer new capabilities, but for most, they are unnecessary or unwanted. We generally text, call, FaceTime, use GPS, take photos, and do other things that have been available for generations of phones.  

I don’t need AI to summarize a three-sentence text message or make a more adorable emoji, and having an extra camera button won’t improve my life.  I don’t think I’m alone in my apathy.  When was the last time you saw a news report of people waiting all night for the Apple store to open so they could be the first to get a new iPhone?  

I’m sure Apple knows this reality, so they have moved towards subscription services. Now, you can rent your news, music, health app, TV shows, and cloud storage by paying Apple’s never-ending monthly subscriptions.  

I wonder if they are cheaping on their parts, as my last two phones had major failures within a few years.  That would be a shame, as one of Apple’s hallmarks is the quality of its products. Android phones are now very sophisticated, and decent Android phones can be bought at reasonable prices.  Switching to Android would be inconvenient, but it would hardly be impossible.

With all of the above, you have probably guessed that my opinion of my upgrade is “Meh.”  I’m sure that there are things that I will eventually appreciate, like changing the Lightning port to USB C, and I may even like Apple Intelligence if it can subsequently improve Siri’s responses. However, it offered nothing that my old phone couldn’t deliver. 

Should you update your old iPhone for a new one?  If you are happy with the functionality of your old phone, no.  If it isn’t holding a charge, you may want to consider replacing the battery to give it new life.  Phones are expensive, and now that they have become commonplace, there is no longer any status to have the latest one on the block. Will all of this impact Apple’s market share?  I don’t know, and I’m not too concerned. I’m sure Tim Cook is working on options for Apple. Monthly subscription to rent your iPhone?  Oh wait, that is already being done; it is called a cell phone plan.

Peace

Mike

Images from various websites are being used for educational purposes only.  The above post is my personal opinion.

Random thoughts and my philosophy of life.